I dated this guy for 2 years. We broke up due to career reasons. He's very career oriented and doesn't want to have anything until he's completely done with his PHD. It's been about 2 years since we've broken up and I can still feel the love for him. And I know that he loves me deeply as well. The thing is we dont communication or see each other but I know the love is there. He wants me to give him couple years to complete his education and inbetween he wants nothing at all. I love him and deep down inside I know he is my true love. I dont know what to do...
2006-11-24 21:49:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if his love was true, he would have married you by now.
2006-11-24 21:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I wouldn't wait. I think he won't respect you if you do, he'll take it for granted that he doesn't have to work at all for you. Go out, have fun, date other men, see the world. Make it clear to him that you're not just sitting by the phone waiting for him to complete his education. Also, you have NO guarantees that he's waiting for you, or that he won't keep you waiting once the Ph.D. is done. Then it might be, "Wait until I get a good job, wait until I make more money, wait until I become a vice president, wait until I start my own company." This way, if you have fun, the two years will fly by and you'll have more experience to know if he's really worth waiting for, and you might just meet someone who doesn't want to keep you waiting.
Oh, and one other thing: plenty of people get married while working on their Ph.Ds.
2006-11-24 21:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you still talk to him? Are you still friends with him? I couldn't imagine having a relationship with him if we haven't spoken at all in 2 years, if thats thats the case, then you need to talk to him to see if he is even available.
As for me personally, you never know what can happen tomorrow. If you love someone then no matter what you should make it work. What if something happened and you never got a chance to tell him you loved him?
Alot can change in 2 years, its not exactly fair that he is making you wait for him. I would feel deeply hurt if that happened to me.
2006-11-24 21:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dee P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i will have to give u 2 choices
if you wait:they myt be gud things cumin,if he cums back 4 u,u wil be rewarded for being patient,he will love & trust u even more,but then if u wait again,when he finishes he myt think he is too good for you and dat it was high tym he got someone on the same league as he.
but then why is he not communicating,dat aint fair if u say he love u dat much,why does it have to be you with the sacrifice,why cant u both sacrifice in positive ways,u dont distract him,and he makes sure he cals u during weekends and u meet sumtym for a few hours just to chat.babe gal sum tym love only its not enuf u need to be constantly be reassured dat u are also loved by both action and words.
2006-11-24 22:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by loveguru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this with him. Tell him how you still feel and maybe take things slowly untill he's finished his studies ....But dont let him keep you waiting for 2 yrs with nothing in the mean time and if he really loves you he wont do that
2006-11-24 21:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait if this guy loves you like you say he does then he would have done more to be with you. you could be waiting for him forever and in the end it might not work out. so you would have been waiting around for him for nothing when you could have find the guy who was right for you in the mean time
2006-11-24 22:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Foxy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait and see what happens. If you really know he is your true love, then you shouldn't have a problem to wait for two years.Besides live your life while you can enjoy being single. You'll be very independent then
2006-11-24 21:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the chances of you two finally getting together are either slim or none. I think he likes you a lot, but is looking for something else and holding you in case he cant find what he is really looking for.
2006-11-24 21:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would sit him down and just say that you cant wait for him forever but you will wait for now just go out and have some fun get your mind off thing you are stressing about it to much
2006-11-24 21:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by jessikacollinson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as he is yearning for u as u do for him, u can wait. Otherwise forget about it.
2006-11-24 21:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋