Smoking in or out?

Question

My girlfriend and i are going on 5 months everthing is great! However she is a smoker! at first i thought it would'nt bother me,
Now it is bothering to the piont that i don't like to kiss her as much,
and i don't like the way she smells like smoke. During a movie she will go out side 3 times to light up a cigarette, Thus ruin the enjoyment of her company. I guess she is making me feel to were I'M loosing my interest with her.. I have told her several times how her smoking bothers me. She does brush after a smoke but not ll the time, She wont quit! and I wont accept her smoking for very much longer! Any advice on my matter?

Answer 1

If she really cared, then she would at least try to show down the smoking for you. After you smoke, even if u brush your teeth, you still stinky like smoke.. which is so yucky!

3 times during a 2 hour movie totally seems obsessive..

Maybe you could comprise with her, but it is not fair for you to have to deal with that..

good luck!

Answer 2

Since you have discovered that her smoking bothers you, and have also discovered that she doesn't care that it bothers you, then do both of you a favor, and end the relationship amicably and move on. Better to end it after five months, than five years.

Issues like this tend to erupt into bigger issues ... and can quickly dissolve even otherwise strong relationships. This is one of those "make or break", bottom line incompatibilities that just isn't going to work.

Also ... even if she were to quit ... there is every possibility that a month, or six months, or three years down the road she will light up again.

Answer 3

Go on a trip with her somewhere and make all her cigarettes disappear. Or whenever you are around her take the cigarette out of her mouth and throw it on the floor. As a final straw tell her it's you or the cigarettes. Then just walk out and if she calls answer it and just keep telling her that your not coming back unless she stop smoking. If she lets you leave and doesn't call then shes probably not right for you anyways.

Answer 4

I think it depends on the person. One guy I was with who smoked,I ended up really resenting. I'd get so angry! Once I supposedly snapped all his ciggaretes in a fit of rage, though I don't actually recall this happening...on the other hand, my current guy smokes and I love it. I don't know why, but it's hot in this circumstance. So I think what this says is that if you really like the person, you'll be ok with it. If things are less than perfect in other aspects of the r/ship it will annoy the hell out of you.

Answer 5

Tell her you are concerned for her health and if it really turns you off ... I think I would look for love elsewhere. I personally think that smoking is a nasty and dirty habit, I tried it as a teen and left it alone and traded it for mountain dew! Funny trade off. All my family smokes and I don't go around them much cause I can't stand the smoke nor watching them kill themselves. My Mother at 68 has throat cancer and refuses to stop. My opinion doesn't sway her a bit. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 6

Get a new girlfriend because smoking is something that is harmful to both of you Have you heard of second hand smoke and besides if you don't smoke why would you go out with a smoker? vinegar and water won't mix

Answer 7

As a smoker I know how much it can affect a relationship. If you've complained enough and she still can't quit then you need to decide what is more important, dating a non-smoker or her. If it bother you that much then move on. It won't get any better.

Answer 8

Non-Smoking please, I dont techniques if others do...my ex hubby smoked and my mothers and fathers smoke, and my sister yet i do now not smoke so I many times like it extra effective if now not, yet that dosent recommend that i'm long gone in case you illuminate each now and then.

Answer 9

First things first. Let her know how important it is to you, and the effect it's having. If she cares, she will quit.

Personally, I cannot get too close to someone who smokes since I learned someone I cared about had to get tested for cancer. The thought of losing someone you care deeply about, slowly and painfully, when there's nothing you can do is quite painful. I couldn't put myself through that. You may wish to avoid it as well.

Answer 10

Gross

Tell her u cant stand it anymore and if she doesnt quit, then you will dump her.

Even if u did stay with her she would probably die pretty early any ways.

I cant STAND smokers! ITS DISGUSTING
the smell of the smoke. its so inconsiderate that 50% of their smoke goes into the person next to them which will slowly fill ur lungs up with tar and all the pollutants. GROSS.. poor thing i cant believe u actually kiss her... yukkkkk

there a plenty more fish in the sea who arent addicted to nicotine..


goodluck hun