After our second child my wife cant seem to drop her pregnacy weight. She is almost 200 and I am starting to limit her portion of meals and monitor her drinks I cant watch her eating habits 24 hours a day but her fat butt would eat a hole in the table if she could. Please someone give me some advice on my obese wife . Is it ok to divorce her?
I work out and she sits can tell me who was on opera and hummms the scrubs show tune...I need advice on how to move humpty dumpty off the wall is what im saying....
2006-11-24 21:07:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start working out more often. People might call you shallow but I can understand that it's difficult to be attracted to an overweight woman. If you are working out alot and focusing on your health alot she will notice. It's a bit of cruel psychology but if you are looking great and eating well she will look at herself and feel disappointed. It's great because you get in great shape, and she will have to follow suit. If she isn't willing to then she has deeper issues then weight gain.
2006-11-24 21:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by 65Cobra 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, if you're limiting her food and monitoring your drinks, you're turning yourself into an ******, and why would she want to stay married to you? How about sitting her down and telling her you're concerned about her health, and you want to be married to her for a long time to come, and how can you help her? And then really listen. And if the answer is that she needs more help with the kids, and someone to do the dishes and laundry and help with everything, then you got to do that. Because she might be eating out of anxiety and frustration. And, hey, why don't YOU cook dinner at night? Go to weightwatchers.com and learn to cook healthy meals. Also, a great book is called "Fat is a Feminist Issue" and it might give you some insight into why being fat feels better to her than being thin does. You have to do some work in this relationship.
2006-11-24 21:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just say,
Honey i want you to start working out with me because i am worried about your weight.
How about buying some gym equipment and sticking it infront of the TV?
Or buy her some excersise dvds and say here why dont you try these..
If worse comes to worse tell her u are finding it hard to stay attracted to her, but try not to make her feel bad!!
Dont divorce her though, give her a chance and show you want her to stop being so lazy, remember you have kid/s to think about too.
Goodluck
2006-11-24 21:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you want to spend money for reduce then ask her to join VLLC or you don't want to money then ask her to do yoga both time and take only guard juice in breakfast she can learn yoga on aastha channel at 5.30 am n 8pm daily with swamy ramdevji so will reduce very very fast. just visit www.divyayoga.com or contact ph. 01334 240 008, 244107, 246737 for further details i think i given you enough information for your problems no way to divorce you got two nice child think about their futures.
2006-11-24 21:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.....try loving your wife and the mother of your children a little more...or better yet, how about a little respect and support....maybe she is having an issue....instead of calling her names and being disrespectful and talking about divorce, why don't you talk with her and try to figure out what the real problem is....perhaps she is depressed? Maybe she realizes that she is married to an ingrate and is unhappy.....
2006-11-24 21:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
you could start by stop belittleing her and help her find a reason for losing the weight..you make it sound as if she should lose the weight to look good to YOU.Would you want to do something for someone who calls you names and makes you feel humiliated ?..probably not..I would tend to think that you are a large part of her self esteem problems...probably if you devoriced her the weight would start to come off..for her..not YOU....then when it does ,hopefully she will find a man who loves her unconditionaly
2006-11-24 21:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, a diet is very important. Also, you could try to make her avoid fatty foods (but not to not eat them at all! a women needs fatty food in her life!) , and avoid dinners or meals after (5:00) ! Excersice, by walking each day with you, around the neighborhoud and no snacks! I hope she gets well soon, and it is really not worth divorcing her. I hope you best of life and luck,
:)
2006-11-24 21:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Shark_Tooth_90 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You could try not being such an stupid idiot, but you would probably just fail at that to. Maybe you should divorce her I am sure even if she hits 300 she wouldn't have to search to hard to find someone better than you who will respect her and love her for more than her physical appearance.
-NmD!
2006-11-24 21:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes Billy, do her a favor and divorce her.
A wife, and children deserve someone more supportive in the honored role of husband, and father.
2006-11-24 21:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Married for love huh? Divorce her, you'd be doing her a big favor
2006-11-24 21:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋