My girlfriend wants to marry me and I could see myself being with her, but I want to explore. I'm still in college and there's so many women I want to experience. Is this a problem?
2006-11-24 20:54:51 · 14 answers · asked by hahaman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her straight up all this. if u're not gonna be honest with her right now, it could lead to tons of heartache for both sides. good luck!
2006-11-24 21:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as well tell her that you need to put the relationship on hold for now until you're ready to reinitiate it again. If you continue on with the relationship while you're aching to explore other women, then you will most likely have a failed relationship later on when you decide to cheat on her with other beautiful women that cross your path. You have to be honest with her and tell her now that you're not really ready for a long term commitment with her ...yet.
Cut her lose, then explore all you want. After you're done, ask her back. The final decision is up to her as to whether or not she wants you back. She may have already moved on with another guy.
But yeah, you need to be honest with her about your intentions, otherwise you WILL CHEAT on her eventually because of the "What if" scenario that you'll feel when you're distracted by other women.
2006-11-25 05:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Tri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! If you have doubts like these, then do NOT get married. Tell her how you're feeling. It might be best for you both to play the field for a while, and see what happens. Either you'll find someone else that you love more, or you'll realize how much you really love your current girlfriend. Believe me, if it works out, it will make your relationship that much stronger.
2006-11-25 05:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by geektacular 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure is if you're a Gigolo an immature little snot nose Mommies Boy who just isn't ready for commitment, responsibility and the all the rest ... you're just a little too immature to have a G/F or explore anything but your own bedroom for the next few years.
2006-11-25 04:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by baltic072 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be a problem if u marry her while u have those feelings because after some time u might want to act on them when the perfect situation presents itself and situations like that are more complicated when ur married than when ur not.so either forget about those feelings and dedicate time to ur gal or tell her that u don't feel ready to enter that kind of a commitment..........
2006-11-25 05:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by mwm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a problem if losing your gf would devastate you.....because it would seem to be decision time....get engaged or move on with your life...If you truly feel that you are not ready and she is not the one, then move on and have enough respect for her to be honest and let her go.....If you are even asking this question, then you should not be considering marriage.....be kind...be a good person and let her know your true feelings....good luck to you both
2006-11-25 04:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt any 'problem' as such...all boys hv such thoughts...who wud want to settle with one wen u hv a chance to explore others !
but realize one thng if u really deeply love ur gf and share a special bond then it wudnt be wise to leave.....specially knowin how hard it wud be for u to cope once u break up wid her and then dont find anyone special !!
so make a wise choice mate
2006-11-25 04:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that might really be a problem. you might already be married, but living a bachelor's life. which might prove quite disastrous. if both of you are serious, both might consider waiting or something like that. but then, if you feel like you can already manage being married and suppress those urges, then by all means go ahead.
2006-11-25 04:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by chicoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You are still young and if you need to explore, explore!
2006-11-25 04:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by JoeJOE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
man does nervious when it comes to marriage, scare of commitment, yeah, u r going to miss all the party and all the girls... how old r u ? if you think u r not ready don do it ~~!!but if u really need her and scare she will walk away then take it.
2006-11-25 04:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋