Way before all this was happening we agreed that I would take him, but to hurt me she's trying to take him from me. She said that we'll go to court but I don't want to take it that far what should I do? He's so used to being with me all the time and I don't mind that I got him. This is a Fifty Fifty deal, and he's my responsibity to and I don't want him growing up not Knowing his father. Because I'd like to be a part of his life. This can get real deep, there is no makeing up and getting back together, already tried it. I just need some advice from someone that's been through it already.
2006-11-24 20:36:44 · 4 answers · asked by Gilly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try a mediator. They cost less than lawyers. They will listen to both sides and try to help you find a solution. Your son is not a "toy" or something to "win" -- he is a human being with feelings. Sometimes the mother is not the best person, and it's not a 100% versus 0% thing -- you should be able to get partial custody if you can take care of him as you have. You've got to work this out for his sake.
2006-11-24 21:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that I've been through a situation like this,
but my boyfriend has.
When he was little his parents always fought on who is going to take him. He always wanted to spend time with both so he would swich in between parents. one week with the dad the next with the mom. Yes once in awhile he did end up going to court with both of his parents, but that was because his parents could never have a normal conversation and decide on what to do.
Now, he has emotional problems. He becomes angry easily and can never decide on one decision because he never wants to hurt anyone. He also locks himself up in a room sometimes for hours ... even days. This only happend to him because of his parents. His parents always looked at him to make a decision and if he picked one choice the other parent would be upset.
Don't put your son into that same situation. He may end up the way my b/f is now. but i'm here for him.
come up with something both you and your ex will agree upon.
2006-11-25 04:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Iselin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be with his mother unless she has problems that would make her unfit. Just because he is with her doesn't mean you cannot take him for awhile. You both need to come to some kind of compromise and stop being selfish with each other about it. You have to do what is best for your child and going to court may help in reaching some sort of agreement between the two of you.
-NmD!
2006-11-25 04:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should live with whoever's more fit to take care of him, period. Financially, physically, and mentally. Then, when he's old enough (10 or 11+) he can choose who he lives with.
2006-11-25 04:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by Rika Ishikawa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋