because they got a over-weight after having the man's baby? ...explain... please
2006-11-24 20:34:49 · 16 answers · asked by Chef Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Any man who would leave.....complain.....or be mad at his woman for gaining weight after having a baby is an ignorant jerk who has no clue about women.
And yes there are way to many out there that are that way. The only love they have for their women is how they look and sex. And boy do they make great fathers. NOT!!!!!!!!
If a man loves a women he will never ever worry about her gaining weight. In fact he won't even hardly notice. He will support her in every way he can to do what ever she needs to do for herself but never criticize her for something totally beyond her control.
This is what happens to woman and it is suppose to happen because she needs to be able to support not only her body but the baby. Following birth she still needs to support that child through breast milk even if she chooses not to.
So for him to think she should drop weight just to look good is asking her to go against nature. And in extreme cases that can be very harmful to her and the baby.
This kind of man is very immature and should never ever marry until he grows up. Unfortunately he can be quite attractive to woman until it is too late.
2006-11-25 02:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friends husband left her after she had 2 babies (11 months apart) and gained 40 lbs. A few years later, after she had lost the weight, he wanted her back and he accused her of ruining their lives together by not loosing the weight right away.
This is a classic example of why you need to be extra careful when choosing your partner. There are a lot of jerks out there. If it is too late for you, and you already picked a jerk, please try to remember that you are unique and special, with or without the weight. If he left you because of a few pounds extra, you are better off without him.
I also had 2 babies really close together (16 months apart). I have also gained some stubborn weight. My husband loves me for ME, not just for my body. He supports my efforts to loose the extra weight, and I think he will be happy when I do, but he has never commented on my body in a hurtful way.
2006-11-24 21:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Amy d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few out there. My fiance's dad left his mom when he and his brother were only 2 and 3. His dad told his mom that he just couldn't be with a chubby woman. Thank GOD my fiance was raised by his mother and not his dad though. I gained 100 pounds with our fist because of severe toxemia. After I had my daughter I got pregnant with our second almost imediately. I love half of the weight but still have 50 pounds left of it. He's still here. Some men are pathetic when it comes to things like that.
2006-11-25 01:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife got "CHUNKY" after our first (He's Four), last year she and I got very health conscience, we both lost weight, she got back to about 109 lbs, like when she was 17 (she 42). I wish she did'nt because evrey time she walked past me, she would look so hot in her underwear, baby #2 is on the way now !
2006-11-24 20:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! BUT, he's not a real man, he's a user. If he leaves for that reason, then I'm sure he's got plenty of other excuses or he probably don't want the responsibilites of a child.
2006-11-24 20:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lila 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. Isn't it funny how men can get fat (beer belly, etc), go bald, etc and still think they're sexy?! Yet if a women puts on weight, she's worthless? He doesn't love you for you, but how you make him feel. If he bases his love for you on your weight, he's emotionally immature. Tell him you can lose the weight, but he'll still be a jerk.
2006-11-25 01:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Saved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sad but some men do but others that truely love thier wives dont so dont worry girl no matter what they do always stay strong for your child with or without the man
2006-11-25 10:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who do that are shallow , and big time jerks! They should love their spouse no matter what they look like. Afterall why did he marry her in the first place? Cause she's sexy?...or her personality. Think about it.
2006-11-24 20:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men are that shallow. But some would love their lady no matter what, and would help her get back into shape, not abandon her!
2006-11-24 20:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by мooи sнiиe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went from a 6 to a 16 after our first child and went up a bit more after our second.....and he still loves me :)
2006-11-24 20:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋