There is this guy (31) at work that just sweaps me of my feet! But he is married and has 3 children. (I'm 21 and single)He gives me those looks.....like he wants something. He flirts with me all the time and yea I do flirt back...he is so hot. I very attrackted to him. He asked me out to lunch and I said I will think abot it. I feel bad....I'm not a home wracker but I just cant resist. He e-mails me at work all the time. I heard that he has a very nice wife and that he is a very good father to his kids. Why does he seem like he is willing o cheat on his wife? I'm sure its not his1st time seducing a young girl, he is preatty dorn good at it. I dont know what to do. Please help!
2006-11-24 19:55:57 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Avoid him like the plague! Demonize him if you have to to get yourself to blow him off. Don't answer his email except to say "no thank you. I'm sorry if my flirting got out of hand. I don't date married guys." Then don't respond to any more.
Marriage is sooo hard when you have kids. People rarely have time or energy for sex like they use to and falling in lust with someone new all the time is just so much fun! But you would be doing something that you will feel bad about and you don't deserve that. Guilt sucks all the fun out of it. And you would be contributing to his guilt and potentially a lot of pain for his wife and kids and him if he lost them. He may be desperate, but you don't have to be. Just remember, guys who do this to the mothers of their children would and will do it to you, too if you bother going there. You'll end up wasting some of the most precious time of your life with some guy who may even be a lousy lover and that you'll feel bad about the whole time.
It would be SO much more fun for you to be flirting hot and heavy with some luscious thing that you can feel good about and have the potential of developing a REAL relationship with. And if you just want a hot quickie romance, there are plenty of single guys who've sworn off commitment just so they can have fun without hurting anyone. But whatever you do!!!... USE A CONDOM!!! (at least a female condom. You can buy them online) Avoiding getting pregnant or getting herpes or some other nasty is totally worth the effort.
Sex isn't always all it's cracked up to be, but especially if you act irresponsibly. You can be a "bad girl" and have an outrageously good time without hurting anyone, including yourself. Just be smart and honest and have fun for real!
2006-11-24 20:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by kim b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
generally speaking you should stay away from him. if you think he is going to leave his wife and kids to be with you, he is not. he's just excited about the idea of having sex with someone new and young. i would guess that over the years the wife has put on weight (3 kids), is an annoying nag and probably is not the same fun loving person the guy married ... all because of the kids. so, men like a new woman who can help them escape the "family life." if you just want to have fun with him, i say, stll don't do it b/c as a woman, you should respect other women and you should hope that one day when your husband is flirting with a woman at the office, that the woman rebuffs him b/c she respects women too. what goes around, comes around. have good relationship karma.
2006-11-24 20:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by ca belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
married men is a big no no sweety ..you r 21 and just looking for a date ... he is 31 and is looking at cheating ...its a question of not just the two of you but his baggage of a wife and three kids as well.. why do you haveto be the person who has to break a marriage ? if he is cheating then i guess somethng is wrong in their marriage and if it has to break then it will but dont be the cause of their break... there r a lot more fish out in the sea and a lot younger ones too.... just tell him that you cant go thru with this and walk out dont let him talk....because he s going to bring you in on the relationship and it hurts being the other woman ...if he s capable of cheating on his wife and kids he s pretty sure capable of cheating on you in future ...stay away from him thats the best advice i can give you !
2006-11-24 20:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You call it 'dating' a married man ? No...not dating...you and he would be cheating and sneaking behind the wife's back. I 'dated' a man two years ago for a short period of time before I discovered he was married. I immediately ended it. I informed him...amongst other things...that he needs to divorce before he dates. I'm sure he just went on to another...but not with me. But you want to 'date' this man just because you 'can't resist him'...interesting. Think of that when your husband in the future is 'dating' another just because he and the woman choose not to resist each other.
2006-11-24 20:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. You know what to do. As much as you tingle, stay away. You do not want to be the person who is blamed for destroying his family (even if he's actually to blame). You're young and have a long time to live with the guilt. Find someone younger and single. Be strong and resist. You know it's wrong, otherwise you wouldn't be asking.
2006-11-24 23:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Calc44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy sounds like a dog. But something you should ask
yourself is are you really willing to to let this man cheat on his wife. You don't want a guy who going to cheat on you cause lets face it once a dog always a dog. You should tell him you don't feel the same way (even if you do) he feels about you and if he still dose it maybe you should talk to his wife about it.
Worn her about her husbands dirty ways.
2006-11-24 20:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by lilfireball_131 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
particular! The day that I lose all admire for myself and different women many times...the day that marriage ability particularly not something to me in any respect...and while i believe like destroying different peoples lives in basic terms because of the fact i'm a selfish tramp who isn't respectable or smart adequate to discover her very own guy... ...do not anticipate that occuring every time quickly. I have been given called the "meanest b!t(h on Bourbon" with the aid of a guy. A married guy who saved coming in to be sure me in many circumstances while i substitute into at artwork. I advised him I had 0 admire for him, i presumed he substitute right into a scum bag and he had to bypass get divorced formerly he substitute into going to blow money attempting to impression women one million/2 his age. advised him to shove his tip up his you recognize what. And he tipped me $one hundred every time he got here in to be sure me and offered the finished bar a around (usually approximately 50 human beings at 5pm).
2016-10-13 01:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by archuletta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do with what is going on is your decision. I would strongly advice going out with this married man. My reason is where will it lead. Even is he is great, good looking and so on will he leave his family to be with you. Are you willing to be the girl on the side. Even if he were to ever leave his wife do you want to be looked down upon as the one who ruined the marriage. The kids won't accept you. AND if he will cheat on his current wife why would you ever believe that he wouldn't cheat on you. Hope this helps.
2006-11-24 20:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all he is married and has kids, plus he works with you, He's ten years older than you. He might be charming and good looking but the fact of the matter is that he's a jerk. You need to just think of it as work related fun but don't engage it any further, its won't lead to anything good.
2006-11-24 20:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Ankit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should leave him alone and not let him string you along. You are interfering with someone's marriage and there are children involved. He is also using you for his own benefit. Women in this situation usually have low self-esteem, it seems to me. Why not find a man of your own, anyway? You may regret giving up your time to a man who can never really reciprocate.
2006-11-24 19:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋