As I am married (10 years) has gone. My elder brother was staying with me. After our father,mother,elder brother died. Another brother is in usa. My wife wants to live seperately when i came to Chennai. She abuse my brother who is staying with me lot of bad words and also spit. We have splited the shares evenly in that way I have been seperated frm my brother who was staying with me. Because of this impact my two brothers is not speaking to me. Two are elder to me. One is in chennai and another is in USA. Neither two nor speaking or chatting with me. Neither his wife is not picking up the phone or cell phone said that she does not want any relationship with me,wife and child. Whether this will continue or it will be broken. I am very much broken on this. My brother's wife is saying that I shld not come for any eventuality happens to her, 2 brothers.
Tell me it will be solved.
2006-11-24 19:55:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
CONTROL YOUR WIFE.
2006-11-25 15:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be true, who can tolerate such abusive words and actions for God's sake! You haven't mentioned the reason why your wife harassed your elder brother apart from wanting to live separately. What was the issue? Were you not there when your wife did all this or if you were there, what you did to stop your wife? Look, I don't think that any self-respecting man can endure all of this and I think your brothers and their wives are acting exactly in the way, a person will behave to a person who has harassed them badly for without any reason. If there is a valid reason for your wife's actions, such as being insulted by your brother, put down by him, being ordered by him like a slave or a maid or an attempt to defile her, than obviously the best way is to keep mum about everything for a while and then write to them that you would like to clear all the mess up and perhaps have a more cordial relationship. But if there are no such reasons, seek counseling for her. Write letters to both your brothers and extend your apologies for all that happened and how you are trying to seek help for your wife, so that she won't behave like this anymore. Tell them how important they are in your lives. Write 30 letters for each of your brother. Post a letter every week. I am sure they will come around by the time, your 30th letter is posted. It may take time but do not give up hopes yet. They are angry because the wound is raw. Time heals the worst wounds and your apologies and persistence will surely win them over, once again.
2006-11-24 20:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These problems our faced by every1, this a very complex question anyways i think u should clearly tell ur wife tht u luv ur bro, u hve been together for so many yrs, tell ur wife tht if she has little luv for u she shud apolozise to your brothers tell her how depressed u feel bcoz of her attitude towards ur brothers ,& tht ur respect for ur wife will decrease if she doesnt opolozise , after all she started misbehaving
hope this wrks out, God help u in ur task
god bless u my gud wishes r wid u
2006-11-24 21:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey some how,your wife are kind of cruel....if your wife doesnt want to change her attitude...tell you...u no need to see your brothers again.....forever its gone....come on a wife shouldnt stop a husband choice...Isnt husband the biggest of all???u hav the right to do whatever u like....
2006-11-24 22:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by eve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can definately be resolved there are two ways one both you and ur wife can apologise and constantly persue to join ur family
other at least urself can go and apologise for what has happen and also make them realise that u r their blood relation and due to mis deed of wife why should i be penalise and u should continue to behave properly with them even if they abuse humiliate when ever u visit them take the help of young ones try to love the kids of ur brothers make friendship with them and kids will definately talk to their parents and will make them feel good about u and make them accept u u can take ur kids also with u when ever u visit them so that they will be friendly with ur brothers and their kids.
2006-11-24 21:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by sb r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should make ur wife understand that she should try to bring all the brothers closer to each other than to insult them and bring distance, just make her understand the importance of family, if she takes a step and apologizes(if needed), then everything will be solved.
2006-11-25 00:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your own blood is not understanding you than forget them who cares???
2006-11-24 20:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by bebu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋