My brother turns 24 this month, yet he acts like he's a ten year old. He's never had a relationship, has no friends, no job (ever), no driver's license, no money or assets, no skills, and no life. He lives at home, graduated from community college last year (with a horrible GPA), and has just sat around since then. He used to at least have some discernible interests, as childlike as they might have been (cartoons, Pokemon, Yu-gi-oh, Harry Potter, etc) but now he doesn't do anything all day. I like Harry Potter too, but I have much more adult interests, and have my own job/life/wife/etc. He has never even had a girlfriend, and he doesn't seem to want one, like it's gross. He's turned off by anything sexual the way a little kid would be. My parents don't seem to think this is odd, and my brother thinks everything Mom does is great! Think Buster from Arrested Development. What's wrong with my brother? Will he EVER grow up? If you talk to him about it, he'll get mad and throw a fit.
2006-11-24 19:29:57 · 11 answers · asked by Rainier 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey i'm 26, and dont have a g/f, but then no one advances towards me, and if they did as long as I find them attractive, I would make a move. He does have an AA, so he did something. He is just alittle lazy, but he can find a job with an AA degree.
2006-11-24 20:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by james w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different and mature at different stages of their lives....but if mom and dad allow him just to live with them and mooch... then they as well are enabling him to continue being a nobody! For his own good, mom and dad need to set him loose into the world, to become a self sufficient adult. What if something happend to them tomorrow? What will become of him? 24 is a bit old to still be living with mom and dad, and unemployed...no friends? I'm worried for him. Sounds like some TOUGH LOVE is needed in your parents' home...If he were my child I would have put him out with or with out a place to stay...sounds mean, sometimes that's they only way some people "get on the ball"...
2006-11-24 19:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by wherenai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realize that your mom is babying your little brother and he is playing the part well (it sounds like) but don't worry about this just be the independent man you are and start ignoring the baby when you are over there and maybe hint to your parents that they need to make sure that they have alternative parents in mind in case (God forbid)anything would happen to them cause you have enough on your plate already but you would like to be sure that their baby is going to be taken care of. Shame on both parts might actually open eyes to the way they are both behaving
2006-11-24 19:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by truely human 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a sister much like this. This is what you should do. Get you're mom to kick him out and send him to a specialist he needs help. She might not want to but she needs to stand up for herself. How would she treat the situation if this was her boyfriend? You would kick his *** to the curb. Same principals.
2016-05-23 00:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem sounds to me like he gets what he wants from his parents and is able to live that way....what needs to happen is that he needs to become more independent...gradually he will learn how hard it is to be in the real world and he will ulitmatly change. There is no need for lazieness, childishness, and foolishness.
2006-11-24 19:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by none y 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
they never grow up my dad acts like he's 10 2
2006-11-24 19:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Fusion, gangster man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mom and dad act to give him what ever but he needs to learn sorry here but you are going to have to talk to him to me it the only way to i could think of to handle this problem its not simple but a you got to do what you got to do (good luck)
2006-11-25 09:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he is happy in himself and your parents aren't too bothered about his behaviour,then be happy for him aswell,and not concerned with what other people may think or say about him,its not their buisness!
2006-11-24 19:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
...... your parent's need to pressure him to get a job!..... or he's going to turn into a slob!...... If he wont get off his ars*,..... throw some of his clothe's, and $50 out the door,.. and boot him out of the house!...
2006-11-24 19:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe he did not have a great childhood maybe thats why he acts like that
2006-11-24 19:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by cordova0615 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋