Long story short, I basically asked her to not tell her girlfriends and what we had done the night before. She said she wouldn't. I said ok. I found out later she did. I'm pissed at her. Not really so much that everyone knows, but because she lied. She says she has the right to confide in her friends, but I still say she lied. What do you think?
2006-11-24 18:54:32 · 21 answers · asked by fslcaptain737 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's wrong, you're right.
Not only did she break confidence, but she lied about it.
2006-11-24 19:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she broke your trust, she said she wouldnt do it and then did. You cant trust a person on something as little as that how can you trust her not to go out and lie about having sex with another guy and bringing aids home to you? YOu cant! You should break up with her right away and not waste another second. People have to have some accountability and honesty is so important in the age we live in now.You are right, you should be mad that she lied, now she is rationalizing her bad behavior and no she doesnt have the right to confide in her friends, what you and her share together is private and intimate and none of the other girls business. Be smart, you deserve someone that is honest and respects your privacy. I mean how would she like it if you told all of your friends that she smelled bad or had strange toes or something after promising not to tell anyone what happened? You really cant trust someone after that. good luck
2006-11-25 03:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be worried that she broke a promise. If she wanted to be able to confide in her girlfriends, she should have said, "No, I'd rather not keep everything a secret. Sometimes I need advice." Instead, she gave you the answer she thought you wanted then tried to backpedal once she got caught.
Why you don't want her to tell anyone is not the point here. I personally think it's a little weird, but you made a request, she agreed to it and then didn't keep her word.
2006-11-25 02:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by apissedoffpixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that In a way your right to be mad at her for lying. But you have to relize that a girl and her close friends share absolutely everything that happens to them, and something "like what happened last night with your boyfriend" is a must know for close girl friends. If shes your girlfriend why would you care if her friends knew what you did with her. All it is is sex or whatever you did. People probably already assume you do that with her anyways. I'm not saying this in a mean way just to let you know. :)
2006-11-25 03:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't argue to be right, argue to love.
Is who's wrong and who's right what you are really argueing about? If it is, you should not be together.
What she did is what is called 'girl talk' and almost all women do that with their female friends. Should she have told after she promised she would not, probably not. Should you have extracted that promise? No, not really.
You both went beyond boundaries you should not have erected. That means you are both wrong in my book.
2006-11-25 03:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, thats a toughy. A girl always need to confide in her friends BUT there is always a line you never cross when it comes about your relationship, so im going to have to be with you on this one. I mean, especially since she said she wouldnt. Just talk to her calmly about it and tell her how you feel but dont argue, because then that will make it worse.
2006-11-25 02:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by FotoFan85 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you go through your whole relationship worried over "being right" rather than loving and caring for each other, then you are in for a tough haul.
and it's not fair in the first place for you to tell your g.f. that she can't ever confide in anyone but you. those were HER friends, after all.
2006-11-25 03:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you asked her to, then she should have respected your wishes and so she is in the wrong. However, she is a girl, and I being a girl, we tell our closest friends are deepest and darkest secrets..unlike guys. Although you are different from most guys..most guys brag to their buddies about the night before. SO, props to you for being a mature gentleman and keeping y'alls intimate details a secret.
I suggest just talking to her about it, I'm sure she will understand. I am sure she didn't tell them out of malice, rather that is just what us girls do. But, if you ask her to not reveal your intimate details, she should respect your wishes and keep them to herself. Just talk to her about how it made you feel, and how you feel she hurt you by lying to you, not so much telling them.
Good luck and God bless y'all! :)
2006-11-25 02:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knew she was going to blab anyways, she should not have told you she wouldn't.
Personally, I would have more respect for her if she told you straight up that she was going to confide the details to her friends when you told her not to, rather than just shutting you up with a lie.
2006-11-25 02:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both wrong: She shouldn't have told her friends after promising she wouldn't. You should realize that there are no secrets between friends (especially females-we tell each other everything)
2006-11-25 02:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by discmiss1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be angry. she broke your trust plain and simple. you asked her, and she gave you the answer she knew you wanted and went back on it anyway. that was stupid of her to do. some things should be kept between each other. she wasnt being mature about the situation
2006-11-25 03:02:26 · answer #11 · answered by KitKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋