I've been dating this guy for 9 months, and he's the best boyfriend I've ever had. He used to tell me that he loved me all the time, now it's just on the phone. When we're out together, I sometimes catch him looking at other girls. Lately, he's had this tone in his voice when he talks to me. I know you girls know what I'm talking about. It's like something is bothering him, and I don't know if that something concerns me, or if it's something in general that's bothering him. I ask him to talk to me, and then he gets all defensive when I try to help him. So, what's the deal? Why does he get mad at me when I try to help and when I don't try? Why does he only tell me that he loves me on the phone? Why does he not hold me in public anymore? We used to put our arms around each other when we're in WalMart or something like that but now, we're lucky to even hold hands. The other night we faught he ended up in tears, I acted like the fight didn't phase me. Why did I do that? How can I fix this?
2006-11-24 18:37:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that..and prove that u love him...!
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2006-11-24 18:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To know if someone really loves u is not just the words .is the actions ..loads of actions...saying the words i love you sometimes dont work as much anymore ..he can tell u that but does nothing ..so wats the point .
For men to oogle at woman is very natural ..my hubby does that n i find it ok ..but unless he is oogling at men than i shld be start worrying .. Not many woman can accept that their bfs or hubbies are looking at woman ..understandable ..!
Holding hands in public is like telling ppl u r MINE ...stay away ..but if basic things like that dont exist in yr relationship then it time to do something ...
From what u said i feel that .there is something he aint telling you ...U need to go talk to him n be direct ..."if u dont love me then tell me dont waste my time here with u " that kind of stuff of coz is up to u how u want to open talk to him ...
if a man get easily crank up n angry then u better start doing something ...
Dont sit on yr problem too long, the longer it sits the more hurt u will feel ... If things dont work out tell yrself nvm ..he is loosing a good gf ...there will be better ones out there waiting for u ...is not easy but that part n parcle of life ..take it as a experience ..n u will learn along the way ...
good luck!
2006-11-25 02:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by pevans9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, put your worries and insecurities away. He's trying to move on and you should move on with it as well. He wants to restart it again. If you keep up with the negative flow, it will just bring destruction. Try to catch him back into place by showering affection and show him that you still love him and tell him that you love him. He says that to you and now it's your turn. Do something interesting together. Put that spark back to life. It's not going to be dead unless you keep worrying.
2006-11-25 02:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by MissIndependanceday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I'm a guy. Let me tell you what we do. We say we love you, to keep you, so that if we aren't able to find someone else to have sex with, we'll have something to have sex with when they get back from whatever they are doing, naw mean. That's how we do it. It's all about having sex. We'll do anything for it, say I love you, keep you, everything. It is the truth.
2006-11-25 02:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm..he might be up to something. But it just might be that after awhile in a relationship the saying "i love you" everytime you talk gets old. Me and my fiance used to say it all the damn time. now we just do it on the phone or if we are leaving to go somewhere. Just watch him closely
2006-11-25 02:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin's Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is falling apart, if you ask me. Try to sit down and talk about all of this with him an see if he's willing to wor something out to rekindle the fire in your romance. if not... best wishes.
2006-11-25 02:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are pushing him too hard back off or it will be over. give him some time . if you want to keep him take one day at a time and stop being mean, be patient.
2006-11-25 02:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by kathy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not interested in you anymore and doesn't know how to tell you. Talk to him about it.
2006-11-25 02:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him how u feel ell him what you just posted
2006-11-25 02:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by .._JaZzY FizZle_.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋