how can i have a boyfriend?

Question

i'm 19 and i'm a college student majoring in marketing. my friends and other people say i'm pretty but i can't seem to attract "anybody". i'm talented and people say i've got wits. i've already joined beauty pageants at school so i think i'm not ugly. my classmates tell me that i'm really good at fashion so i know how to dress up. what's wrong with me?

i think i did give a brief description about my situation. i guess i've been treating guys as coleagues; some, competitors. maybe i did scare them away. i guess i'm still young then. but other people mock me. almost all my highschool batchmates have someone special in there lives now. they look happy. for me, i could manage to dine alone in restaurants, shop by myself at the mall. i've never had a serious relationship right now at college. and it's been three years. gosh! i'm just so scared, i would be graduating next schoolyear and i never had the chance to experience something worthwhile. i used to be one of the most-sought-after girls in highschool. maybe i got tired and changed something about myself. maybe i just matured. i posted this question becoz my bestfriend told me a few days ago that i am gorgeous but nobody's going crazy over me. and i thought, he's right (he's gay by the way.) i hope this details could help you help me. thanks so much.

or maybe i just asked the wrong question.

Answer 1

awww.

Try making some good friendships with guys and see if anything develops from there. Or ask some of your girl-friends to recommend you to a guy they know.

Good Luck sweetie. It's difficult to be single...

Answer 2

Well, from your brief description you seem to have everything going for you i.e. style, intellect, beauty, loyal *by your account from your buddies;)*, etc so I really don't see what's the problem here(?!)
You could be as you've put it 'changed' something 'bout yourself... but it'll help if you could elaborate on that, lol=P
Maybe that's 'scaring' the guys off or something.
Perhaps you have high standards because from your description you do come across that way *no offense*
Or it could simply be you're not ready for a relationship.
Not finding the right person could be another.
The best is to not rush it though, just let it happen naturally. When it's right, it's right. You'll find your other half - just be patient.

Answer 3

Nobody here can answer that question, not even with the brief and I mean brief description you gave. If you are really that upset and lonley ( because that's what it sounds like) Try talking to a friend you trust and telling them everything; and I mean everything in your life. if they are a true friend they'll tell you the truth. If not then you need to self evaluate, and you 'll find that you'll make new friends. keep in mind knowing yourself before anyone else does is very important. If all else fails hell call me I'll tell what's wrong with you I'm pretty blunt. But I'm hoping you have the friends to help you.

Answer 4

maybe your not really putting yourself out there as much as you think you are. you are hot and talented and good dresser that sounds like a winner but if i only want sex i would go for that. im a guy i know what i use girls for that look like you and im 19 too. so if you want to get cheated on and taken advantage of, plus if you're hot get a boyfriend. just tell them you are interested in sex and they will be lining up.

Answer 5

i believe that you don't search for love because love will find you someday , don't think about these stuff because it will only waste u time and the time will come for you to meet the man of Ur life .. i never thought that i will have someone who would appreciate me and love me because i thought that I'm not the lovable type .. but my husband did find me .. you will never know how and when but I'm sure that he will come why would anyone miss a girl joined a beauty pageant ;) cheer up

Answer 6

maybe you have high criteria on choosing one, thus, if u like someone that people think is not enough for you, your not gonna give em a chance. that would be a big mistake on your part. Only you can tell weather you 2 are good to go.

See small things they do, there, you will find answers.

Answer 7

first advice.. dont join any dating service n sites.. not for u..!!

secondly... dont be so desperate to have bf... i know its the age when u want someone to like u more than yourself but may be u are so good that other guys think u are better than them n they are not in your league, so they just dont try.

i wud like to suggest u just to wait and watch.. time will come n u'll get ur prince soon..!!

patience is the key and dont hurry as by that you'll end up in some problem..!

have good friends around u always... either personal or online friends... that will surely relieve u..!!

njoy life and dont panic buddy..!

Answer 8

What exactly is your problem? According to you, you are hot, intelligent, motivated, and know a trade. I would go out with you, right now. What's your problem? Men want women all the time, trust me I know. They don't care what color, gender, anything. They want a woman. You have to meet guys, they're going to go for you, hey I would too. Go get a man tomorrow, ya hear.

Answer 9

There's nothing wrong with you, but you should know by now that most college guys aren't looking for relationships. College is about experimentation and having fun.

Answer 10

..... check out some chat/dating site's..... Choose your chat friend's carefully,... and use common sense, and you can have a lot of fun on some of these site's..... This is a good one to try.... Adult friendfinder.com .... Use common sense,.. and you'll have a fun time.... Apart from this site, there are lot's of other's online as well!...