Would you rather have your teenager..
a) Tell you the truth.. aka... starting up a habit you thought I ended..
b) keep it to myself and solve my problem by myself so your hair doesnt fall out with stress..
I'm guessing most parents will say a.. but I just want to see..
thanks.. FYI I'm 15
2006-11-24 18:13:43 · 17 answers · asked by egf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm a mother to 3 boys and even tho they're no where close to be teenagers, I would want them to be able to come to me for anything. Especially since you put " a habit u thought i ended". What habit would this be and how dangerous is it? Parents are better off knowing what is going on with their child. We will gladly take the baldness and stress and heartache , if it means we can help our children with their problem. It will be tough coming clean to your parents but you will feel better after wards, when all is worked out and your parents will see how you took a step in the right direction by coming to them first and being honest. They will see you as more grown and responsible. Good Luck =)
2006-11-24 18:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Danelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a Long-Term Single Parent ... here is my answer:
I ALWAYS prefer that either of my (now adult) children would tell the truth -- and admit that they have re-started a bad habit or are doing something wrong -- because then ...
I can see to it that they get help with the problems or find a solution that will result in better behavior (and quitting the wrong stuff) ... and if it means that they have to get treatment or go into the hospital (or rehab) -- it is better to treat these problems NOW at a tender age rather than have them develop a habit that will destroy their lives if it goes on for the longer term
2006-11-25 03:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your habit is causing you to beg, bum, borrow or steal, you'll
be found out sooner or later. You'll also feel worse for sneaking
around behind their backs to keep it a secret. You may even lose
their trust in you. You need support to quit the habit. You can't
lie to yourself and think you can quit all alone unless you are
strong willed. If you were, this question wouldn't have been
posted but rather, you would have taken some action, yes?
Self destruction should not be an option for you, tell your parents.
You have a conscience and I'm glad for that. Your parents may
go a lot easier on you if you tell them now. Don't wait until they
find out. It'll be too late. I wish you well. Good-Luck Sweetie.
2006-11-25 02:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Van T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would my child to just tell me the truth. But there are alot of kids and teens that dont tell their parents anything. And when they dont say anything sometimes it could be a bad thing for the kid and for the parent.You have to ask your self why do you want to do what ever you are doing and what good will it accomplish for you. For example:... Doing drugs it may make you feel good but in the long run it will hurt you. My advice to you being 15 be yourself you dont have to do things just to please your friends to fit in.,if you do their really not your true friends.
2006-11-25 02:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by michele k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth. I wished that I would have told the truth. I smoked for 6 years before they knew. I now have c.o.p.d. not a smart thing that I did. Your parents LOVE you and they will help you with your problem no matter what it is.Sure they may ground you or scold you ,but they will help you.
2006-11-25 02:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guessing right. Tell your parents the truth. I know it may be hard to do. You might not get a positive reaction at first, but give them a little time. Telling them will allow them to help you in the long run.
2006-11-25 02:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by Paige2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am the mother of a 14 yr old girl. I wish she would tell me the truth even just once.
2006-11-25 02:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ghost 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent and I have parents.
I had started smoking at 16 and hid it from my parents until I was 19.....
I THOUGHT I had hidden it.
They knew all along. (its amazing how us moms and dads know stuff)
They said they wished I had just been honest with them.
I want my kids to feel safe telling me anything without fear. I would never judge them ( I know I'm not perfect)...but that's just me.
2006-11-25 02:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It best to come clean.At least then you'll get credit for being honest.If you talk to them they'll be happy you feel you can come to them.If you dont and they found out on there own not only will they be really mad but they'll be hurt and probably lose some trust in you.
2006-11-25 02:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by melissa f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always tell the truth. But I remember I mostly kept to myself, if they don't have to know. Be respectful, not smart.
2006-11-25 02:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋