Heres the story(3weeks)...this girl, we always use to go lunch, out to movies, and even the occasional dinner/going out with friends of ours. Everything was really great...she likes to touch me alot, and we always use to laugh....now all thats gone, the past week has been really hard as i dont know what has happened. Her B/f did break up with her, but we use to go on lunches even before that happened. I didnt make the move cause i really didnt want to move too fast for the girl. Im so annoyed at her this past week...she doesnt respond to my txt's, unless its really urgent, and she seems to have gotten real distant from me...i have yet to ask her why, but she works with me, and i dont want to say anything yet...i really like her, and dont know what to do...One thing i noticed though, is shes really nice and laughing to everyone else...but shes now got a awkward feeling towards me everytime im there, as if she doesnt want to talk to me/ignoring me. and then we think girls arent evil?
2006-11-24 17:54:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was the one she came to straight after the breakup, she wanted me to be there for her, which i was, and i always have been, everytime she wants something, im usually there to respect that, and everytime she didnt want to do something, i would not do it too.....but the problem im facing here, is that she hasnt said anything to me since?so i dont know whether to back off, or to ask her whats up, being that im always working with her, its really quite hard to t talk to her....ill keep it at a minimal, and ill make sure she knows that im not too happy with what shes doing too....so she can see where im coming from....
I feel i have done something to get her annoyed like this, but dont actually know what it is....i think there is nothing, shes just annoyed full stop. Please help, i care greatly for this girl, but have never really expressed my true feeling to her before, i do always ask if she ok though. its been one day and i have already limited convo to just having to talk thats it.!
2006-11-24 18:17:39 · update #1
she went back to her ex!! move on lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-24 18:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that first of all. Well, she's giving you the pretty obvious blow off and I thing you trying so hard is encouraging her to act that way. Actually, come to think of it, she's enjoying it. You're feeding into it. Don't do that. Let her be all smiles with everyone else. You seem like you're very nice and this girl doesn't seem to want to be a part of it. Here's what you do: Starting the next day YOU act distant towards HER. Do her the exact same way she's doing you. *sounds perverted but you know what i mean* It may be hard but trust me, you'll thank me later. After you start doing this I guarentee she'll be the first to come to you. Good luck, sweetie.
2006-11-25 02:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta just ask her, dude. Don't avoid it any longer. If she is indeed moving away from you (for whatever reason), then you waiting to do something about it, will only allow that rift to grow even more. It's one thing if you give asking her out a shot and she says know... at least you tried. But if you continue to put this off, you may lose out on that chance... and that my friend, will probably haunt you for a while to come (until the next girl comes along). Just be straight up with her, talk from the heart... "I've gotten the feeling lately that you're avoiding me, or at least, we don't talk and hang out the way that we used to... it seems like you don't get back to me lately... is there something wrong?".... You can do it. Good luck.
2006-11-25 01:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by jonnyhandsomex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going at it wrong. Take you chances when they come up. Talk to the next lady that comes you way. Talk to her. Tell her you like her if you do. Tell her you would like to get to know her better. And, remember that everything that this lady does or does not do is not about you, probably. She is going through stuff also. She may think that she gave you every opportunity to open up to her, but you failed her little test but she also failed to see that she may not have given you enough time.
Probably, she is not feeling well, or she is got other problems and she just needs a little space at this time. Relax, you should get another shot at her. Or, if not, you will have other girls that are interested. Be cool!
2006-11-25 02:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. Sounds like she put you in the "Friends Zone" and you just didn't realize it. Hanging out an doing stuff as friends was fine, but she's not interested in anything more than friendship. You pressing for something more puts her on edge and she doesn't know how to handle it, so she avoids you.
You got one of two choices. 1) You can ask her directly if she wants to date. If she says yes then you'll be together, if not you'll just be friends. Eitherway you'll know for sure how she feels OR 2) Assume she's put you in the "Friends Zone", be her friend, but date soemone else.
2006-11-25 02:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by Rukh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is confused... she doesn't know what she wants is what im guessing. how long were her and that guy together? depending on how long those 2 were together might have made her a little nervous. she most likely likes you, but doesn't want to move on quite so fast... GOOD LUCK
p.s. talk to her at work next time, but dont be quick to ask her why she won't talk to you anymore. ask her how she is and gradually start to get to the point of asking her why she is distancing herself from you. like i said before... GOOD LUCK
2006-11-25 02:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by mrshmllo24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her sometime. she'll come around, she probably is feeling sad about her break up, or maybe you where the reason they broke up. did the other guy know about you?anyways give her a week stop trying to get in contact with her, within a week, pass by her and see what happens if she talks to you great, if not leave her alone, find someone better. good luck
2006-11-25 01:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by black_metal_mist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes hurting after breaking up with her b/f yet having some kind of feeling towards you confusing her so shes taking time to think and working out her issues or maybe you did or said something wrong but I would guess the first one...
2006-11-25 02:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by c_sev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably didn't do anything wrong. She is probably talking,txt, going to lunch, etc. , with some other guy the way she was doing with you when she was still with her ex. , Act like you don't care, get over her, sounds to me like she was using you until she found someone "better".
2006-11-25 02:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Blue eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will ever know what girls think.
Maybe you were the reason for the breakup. Maybe she blames herself for spending so much time with you. Just be honest with her.
2006-11-25 01:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by jason a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously, she knows something you don't.
did you say anything?
DO anything that would make this happen?
or maybe so chick passed on some rumors about you to her and it got her awkward to you. pull her out and talk to her. face to face. get it straight. you can do it! ^__^
2006-11-25 01:57:46 · answer #11 · answered by yourhelpishere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋