Ok so my best friend is babysitting a racist family's kids (the kids r racist too) and now the racist family is really becoming friends with her, and now when i go to her house she always talks about how nice they are and how much fun they have togeather. she seems really happy. should i tell her that they are racist? because since i am african american i dont want her thinking that im jealous of her making new friends. but if i tell her she might take it the wrong way than think that im racist (which i am not becuse she is caucasian).
so i need to know if i should tell her or not...
2006-11-24 17:45:25 · 21 answers · asked by Truth be told. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i know they are racist because, u know the kids that my best fried is babysitting? well i used to play with them, becuz i did this voulenteer thing in there 2nd grade class class, and thr little girl ( the one that my best friend babysits) she told me "my mother told me not to play with the brown kids becuz they are bad and they all do bad things"
2006-11-24 17:51:43 · update #1
they dont mistreat her becuz she is not african american. im just worried becuz she is the "folower" type of girl and i dont want her becoming like them becuz right now her family and there family are really colse
2006-11-24 17:56:11 · update #2
She's your best friend? That's real sad (that she's being with racists).
I am Asian American and I sometimes face similar problems like you have.
I don't think there is anything you can do about this...it's hard. But she MUST figure it out herself...and if she does become like they are someday you just have to back off.
But do know it will NOT be your fault.
If she's really strong enough and a real best friend, she won't change no matter who she hangs out with.
If she's not strong, she could become racist through any other reasons.
2006-11-25 05:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by kawaii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her. Sooner or later she will find out for herself. I agree with you, you are in a no-win situation here.
There are degrees of racism, as I am sure you know. If they are paid up members of the KKK, perhaps you tell her, provided you can substantiate your information, otherwise she may jump to the very conclusions you mention above yourself.
On the other hand, I have noticed that because racism is SO ingrained in USA society, many people vow and declare they are not racist, when in fact they are. I know of a woman who will swear black and blue she isn't racist - yet when speaking to me about her son's school teacher she said "X's black teacher". Now, if the teacher had been white, this woman would not have mentioned the teacher's complexion at all.
I have a feeling what many people mean when they say they are not racist is that they aren't going to join the KKK any time soon - on the other hand, they aren't likely to invite the black neighbour over for tea either! There are degrees of racism.
You have to decide for yourself whether the risk of trying to expose them is warranted. I would have faith in your girlfriend that she will eventually see the light. Perhaps if you went there on a babysitting job WITH her one time, she may see how they respond to your presense - that may be the most telling for her.
2006-11-25 01:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Gillian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If she's happy...don't burst her bubble. Then she'll think somethings wrong with you. You can't tell a racist that they are racist. They have to find it out for themselves. So as long as you can stand it...be her friend. At least she will know that you aren't a racist when she finds out that she is.
2006-11-25 01:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your peeps seem to be getting over their racist problem. I dont really know the details. There could be many factors involved. I admit it does sound a little odd.
2006-11-25 02:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by telecaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. They probably aren't racist towards her because she is allowed to babysit the kids.
2006-11-25 01:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by alight_212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these people truly are bigots, she'll see their true colors when she spends time with them. If she's so stupid that she has to be told they are racist, maybe you'd be better off with another friend. Assuming she's not stupid, just wait, she'll figure it out.
2006-11-25 01:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well as long as they are not mistreatign her or passing rasist remarks at her i think its no harm !
well if that maybe you shouldnt tell her !! i mean its ur opinion tat they r racist ! she obviously doesnt think soo or she wouldnt work for them!
let her know that she should not bear any remarks if they ever pass any !
she should quit right there
tc
all the best
2006-11-25 01:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her how you feel because before you know it they could influence her. if she is your true friend, she will stand up for you and not get caught up in being a racist.
2006-11-25 02:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should tell her but if your seriously worried about her thinking your jealous maybe you should point it out to someone else and have them confront your friend
2006-11-25 01:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know they're racist? cause it sounds to me that if you tell her , you'll be the only one sounding racist. wait till your sure, then tell her about what you've heard or know about these people.
2006-11-25 01:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by black_metal_mist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋