ok my problem is my friend and his girlfriend have been having a little trouble with their relationship for a while nothing big just a little communicating issue(they're both too stubborn) anyways i've been talking to his girlfriend and trying to help them out well now i've started to fall for her myself and we always wind up having really good conversations that last for hours and then after we stop talking we'll start texting each other and i need to know should i stay away from her, keep acting like nothing's up, or should i just tell my friend and/or his girlfriend
2006-11-24 17:35:34 · 15 answers · asked by Matt B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be careful. You're playing with fire here. Either continue talking to her, and realize that you'll have to confront the issue with both her and your friend, or resolve to stop the extra contact and keep it to a minimum (only when you're all out together). Otherwise if you keep up the communications, you risk losing both his friendship and hers. And if you really think that their relationship is in trouble, give it time to either resolve or end, and then you'll either be in a better position to see about what future you could have with her, or you'll see that she really does love your friend and there's nothing you can do about it.
If she is conflicted now, and you try to make a move, then she might feel like you're taking advantage of her emotional vulnerability, and you ruin any chances of anything in the future. So give it time, be patient, and try to be supportive to them both as a couple.
2006-11-24 17:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Someone who cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong w/ liking or falling for any one. Life is too short to not be happy. It is a problem to talk to someone that is involved, esp if that person is your best friend. You have to allow this young lady to go through her motions. Don't be a rebound. you'll end up being hurt and w/o a best friend. Let them go through what they are doing. Make sure they resolve their issue, and OK it w/ your best friend, that you want to talk to her. If you talk behind his back, he might think you were the cause of the break up.
PS Make sure the girl isn't playing you!!
2006-11-24 17:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by camel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you ask me it sound like you have a crush.If you guys can talk for hours that's pretty good it means you both must have alot of things in common.But there and then that stills is your best friend girl so....i would choose.....best friend or the girl.If I were you i would plan wait till your friend and his girl grow apart and ask your friend if you can date her.I would not try dateing her cuz chances are your gonna loose your friend.So what if you have a crush on her that really don't matter.I think you just need to do what your heart is telling you to.GOOD LUCK I HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE.
2006-11-24 17:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by stacy_diva_girl619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, your story sounds exactly like something i went through! I started falling for my best friends girl and all that is going to come of it in the end is her feeling guilty for talking to you because you are his "Best Friend", I did the stupid thing and i told her that i liked her! Wrong thing to do! She acted weird ever since i told her that! Sorry but as much as you maybe do like her it is a bad idea! Don't end up losing TWO friends because of this!
2006-11-24 17:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky!! i am attracted to a lot of my partners friends but if you cross the line your gonna lose your friend.you just have to weigh it up who is more important.Its natural to feel attracted to someone especially if you do spend a lot of time around them.or see them in a loving relationship with another and think i would love that but you need to really be carefull or you could make a huge mess.my advise is probably leave it alone.
2006-11-24 17:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by ness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would - and should - be the end of your friendship if you start going out with this girl. If that is not important to you, then he is not your best friend, and you should tell her how you feel. Otherwise, stay away!
2006-11-24 17:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by topspin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD IDEA! This could ruin your friendship.
Why not just stay friends with her and keep having great conversations? And keep your best friend while you're at it.
2006-11-24 17:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think it is wrong? And what if she does like him back (and is telling you she does not because she does not want to hurt your feelings)? If you ever did (and maybe still) love you ex: let her go and whish for her to be happy with whomever she chooses.
2016-05-22 23:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep...Violation of MAN LAW! At early ages...girlfriends may come and go, but you will find out best friends are few in between. MAN LAW!
2006-11-24 17:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Laughing Man Copycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u can stop talking to her..I dont think u should tell ur bestfriend u like his gf...my advice is just try to stay away from her before ur feelings get to strong.
~take me as i am~
2006-11-24 17:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Take me As I am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋