Should i be upset that my boyfriends baby mama visits him in prison?He says its just so he can see his daughter.
2006-11-24 17:17:57 · 17 answers · asked by Gia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if its just to see his daughter, then dont trip..but how can you know if thats all it's for?
2006-11-24 17:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by blackqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is just so he can see his daughter, than no, you can't be mad for him wanting a relationship with his child. But why are you with this guy, you need to step back and take another look w/o being blinded by "love". He's in PRISON, he has a child w/ someone else, & his ex is in the picture. I bet him & his ex still have feelings for each other - even if nothing is going on, they may decide to try working it out for the child's sake. Too much drama. Get a man who is around, not spending time in prison - who wants a relationship like that anyway.
2006-11-24 17:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by tanner 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not "Baby Mama Drama"
This is uptight, insecure new girlfriend drama.
Get over yourself.
He and his daughter have an absolute right to maintain a relationship and you have no right whatsoever to make it harder, on any level.
Be glad the mother is willing to bring the child for visits, lots of men pay for their crimes by losing all contact with their children because the mother flat refuses to make visits or phone calls possible.
If you actually care about him, you'll focus on what's good for him and his daughter not on your own jealousy.
2006-11-26 03:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok comming for the baby mamas side of the situation. No you shouldnt be upset b/c that could be true since he is in jail and would like to see his daughter. But why are you still with this guy if he is in jail their are to many fish in the sea for you to be waiting on this looser.
2006-11-24 17:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you really don't have a right to be upset. The reason why is she has a bond with your boyfriend as the result of the child they have together. That bond will be there for the rest of their life. This is something that you will have to get used to. It may not be easy and may anger you or even make you feel jealous. This may in fact be something that you may want to rethink (that being your relationship). Good luck..god bless!
2006-11-24 17:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you wake up and realize that you are not just a fool but
you are being played the fool. Your boyfriend has already
established somewhat of a life with another woman and has a
child. You will never take presidence over that. Don't think
for one minute that he isn't exchanging the " I miss you, I love
you words with her." He wants as many visitors and as much
support as he can get with his criminal self behind closed bars.
Don't you know that he'll say anything to keep you involved in
this triangle for his own selfish reasons? When he gets out of
prison he'll be playing BOTH of you for sure!
Is your self-esteem that low that you would wait for him like this?
You'll never ever have this man completely to yourself, I assure
you right now. The only thing you'll have is your heart ripped out.
Get out of this relationship now and get on to a better life with an
available man who doesn't have extra baggage and a criminal
background. Don't you owe it to yourself?
2006-11-24 18:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by Van T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well whether you choose to be upset or not, you have to realize that you chose to get involved with a man who has a child so this is one of the things you have to deal with. You can't stop him from seeing his child. You made the decision and now you have to live with the consequences. This is why I try my best to stay away from men with kids...I couldn't deal with the whole baby momma situation. I don't trust it.
2006-11-24 17:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now take easy! yes she has to be taking his Daughter to see him, i can;t see anything u are her could see in a guy that's in prison! the only thing u could do for him is keep money on the book for him! then that would be taking care of a man. in there he can;t give u anything u need! and as a woman myself i know we need to be loved, huged, kissed.
2006-11-24 17:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he's wanting to see his daughter, he's probably telling the truth. It's not like his daughter's mother and him can get it on at visitation at the jail.
2006-11-24 17:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
She is going to be a part of your boyfriends life forever....so you had better get used to it.
I'm sure it's not easy - I'm lucky cause my 2nd hubby had no kids...but I did. So I really admire people that handle the situation with grace.
2006-11-24 17:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, if you choose to be with a man who has a child from a previous relationship then you have to deal with the fact that she will always be a part of his life
2006-11-24 17:38:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋