My husband is in the marine corps. He has been physically abusive 3 thimes in the last 4 months. I have not reported this b/c he is an MP and I didn't want to stop the support we recieve from his income having 2 small children. (the children have never witnessed the physical abuse) But now that I'm ready to leave he claims he will get help. My question is if I file for legal seperation will the military help me get my belongings home (I'm 2100miles away)? I cant afford it on my own and I'm afraid to stay. i am sad to even come home from work these days. Am I trapped or is there help somewhere?
2006-11-24 17:12:21 · 9 answers · asked by me&onlyme 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The military will help you with all of these issues. There are many services available on post. The main one you should seek is the Family Advocacy program (link below). They have an office on every major base, and should be listed in the base phone book. There are no excuses for his actions. For your welfare and the welfare of your children seek help immediatly in this matter.
2006-11-24 17:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Geronimo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a counselor within your base. The counselor can tell you if you need legal assistance. Once determined that you need legal assistance, you need to ask right up front how the military can get your belongings to you at your new home if separation is granted or how the military can they help pay for part of the cost of moving. There are answers, therefore you do not need to fear of being trapped. You are not in a trap. You will find a way out of this terrible situation. You have to take action, but you can never lose hope. My prayers are with you.
2006-11-25 01:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by RHD100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you report him, yes he will get into trouble. but I know that in the army, if you are legally seperated, the military person gives you like half of the BAH, and they will move the soldier into the barracks for a few weeks, to give the family time to work things out, and if they do that, that gives you plenty of time to leave. You need to tell your family what is going on also, so they can be there. I know it hurts to tell family, but you can't have it eat at you forever. TRUST ME, my ex did the same thing and I let it go and it only got worse. They will have to put him through counceling. I would go to JAG and see what they do, But you definately need to get out before he gets worse. You have to think, is this what I want my kids seeing as they grow up?? Go report his ***, if he does it to you, grab the phone and go hide or something and call the MP's.
2006-11-25 01:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by ~Jen~I love my soldier~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are groups around the country who are there to support women in your situation;try to find the nearest battered womens office,they'll tell you exactly what you need to do and how to do it.they have helped thousands of women relocate they help you get some place safe good luck and God bless you and your children because your in a dangerous place
2006-11-25 01:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His CO will not allow him to abuse his familiy and then let the USMC turn their backs on you because you are the dependant. You may not think that your children don't know but they are smarter than you think.
2006-11-25 01:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by mahree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they do.
Can your family help?
Can you stay there - but not live with him? Otherwise you're going to end up being responsible for getting the children to him for visitation. And if they are young - that would be 3 round trip tickets every few months.
2006-11-25 01:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am Senior enlisted USN... and YES THEY WILL!!! Contact your husband's chain of command... also contact the base's "Family Advocacy" respresentative... their ONLY job is to support you through this ordeal!!! He is REQUIRED to provide you $$$ support, and they will also ensure that it happens.
If you can't find Family Advocacy... call the base chaplain... they know who to contact.
2006-11-25 01:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave. yes they will help get you out of there. plus the great thing about having a military ex spouse...guaranteed child support. dont listen to him that he will get help, just leave.
2006-11-25 01:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by ally 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes there is help out there
2006-11-25 01:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by virginia l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋