I'll keep this as short as possible: We meet, hit it off real big. Things go great for a few months. She starts to go distant. Hot and cold for a while. We talk. She says she is always like this. OK, I have heard the, "It's not you, it's me" thing, you know what I assume. But things stay hot and cold. We start getting closer, she starts to push away. Up and down, like a yo yo. I start to push a little, figured it's only a matter of time that the "truth" comes out. We keep talking, she keeps saying the same thing though. I let up some, but the back and forth drives me nuts, just totally plays on every insecurity I ever had, and I back off some, push some. WTF? Finally occurs to me that she really meant what she said, something big and bad in her past. But now I've pushed her further away (not gone, but on a "break"). If I explained this to you, what would you say? I mean, what should I have thought? I have to look out for me, and who hasn't heard that line before?
2006-11-24 17:10:19 · 3 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is seriously one of the nicest people I have ever met and I assumed she was just too nice to break it to me. So if you were in her shoes and you heard this account, do you think you could look past it eventually? Or is it gone?
2006-11-24 17:10:57 · update #1
I seriously think she may be a manic depressant. They can be really sweet how ever they are mentally ill. Are you sure you want to have to deal with this illness the rest of your life?
2006-11-24 17:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please make sure you're not a rebound. If so she might still have feelings for the last guy. If she has something big to tell you, just sit her down and be caring but firm. Try this, "I'm really trying to understand, but it's driving me nuts when we can't communicate." Remember if you can't communicate w/ each other now, it will just get worse later. I know its a little hard when you meet a really cool person, but you have to be able to talk too.
PS Make sure she is satisfied in bed!!!
2006-11-25 01:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by camel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my ex broke it off with me because he had some major issues with his past girlfriend. he clearly wasn't completely over her, and that really hurt me because i was constantly on an emotional rollercoaster with him. it totally drained me out, so that's why we called it off. idk, it just takes time for people to get over traumatic stuff. trust me, it really is her, not you. if you have faith in your relationship, then stick by her. if her actions scare you off constantly, then maybe you should find someone who actually has the willpower to be in a real relationship with you.
2006-11-25 01:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by damsel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋