I was told Jesus got three gifts that is all anyone is allowed to bring my child at Christmas and all that she gets from us and that I was a bad parent for allowing my daughter to have whatever people give her. I do encourage her to serve others and we do regular communtiy service and give of ourselves to other - this friend is sure I am raising my daughter to be greedy
2006-11-24 17:07:49 · 16 answers · asked by sfinva 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
this friend of yours is wrong- the happiness of christmas gifts is something that your daugther will remember for the rest of her life-your encouraging her to serve others is good education and what will keep her from being greedy is your education, not taking only 3 presents and feeling bad and sad about it.. dont take this pure and unforgetable happiness from her just bcs of this statement of your friend, which probably isnt based on facts! what if this 'supposed' statement is wrong (which is highly probable) and you take this beautiful moments and the best of her future memories from her 'for nothing'?
2006-11-24 17:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has told all the grandparents and aunts that she doesn't want her daughter to receive more than one gift from each of us. So that is what we do. Most kids today receive far too many things at Christmas, and most of the things are never played with and end up in a huge pile of uesless junk. I think it is admirable that you and your child do community service and that you are teaching her the true meaning of Christmas, which is giving to others. You might want to limit the number of gifts to one instead of three.
2006-11-24 17:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY daughter put a limit on the gifts this year.I go crazy.I have 1 child ,she has given me 2 grandchildren.I would give them the moon.
But when we talked about it she is right.It will breed greed.
You need to think about what is best for the child.Teach her the value of love not gifts.
Jesus received 3 gifts ,but think about those gifts.ALL VERY VALUABLE.
BUT IN TURN HE GAVE US THE GREATEST GIFT OF ALL.
------HIMSELF------
2006-11-24 17:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by funnana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds Jealous!!! We don't really know how many gifts Jesus received just because only three are mentioned in the Bible. Jesus Himself gave freely. He didn't say, "Well, I was only given three gifts, so I'm only going to give out three gifts."
What a weird concept!
Along with teaching to give freely an excellent lesson would be to teach to accept graciously. Teach her to write thank you notes (if she's old enough to write). If she can't write, maybe she can draw a thank you.
Children deserve to be showered with love.
2006-11-24 17:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by beckini 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No way. Don't interfere with the good other people want to do. If you don't want her to be greedy, you teach her to give, to give of herself by doing volunteer work, to give time to her family especially the older people, etc...
I can't believe someone is trying to teach you that. Its a character of control and it teaches to be controlling. Self control is what is virtuous. That is what you should teach her, not a character of being controlling of others, which will lead to a bad attitude in the future when she finds that she cannot control others.
Teach her to live right, not to control how others live, like this person is attempting to do to you.
2006-11-24 17:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by pululu81 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The more Christmas gifts your daughter recieve from people means lesser gifts you can buy her.(gifts that she really needs) In the long run you will save money........
2006-11-24 17:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Malaysia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a sin to accept gifts. Jesus accepted gifts. He encouraged giving. In order to encourage giving, you can not discourage accepting. The two do not go hand in hand.
2006-11-24 17:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by beckinvegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going by bible principals, and the birthday of Jesus, he received nothing at his birth. Jesus was a child living in a house with his mother, when the wise men found him. Not a babe in the manger. You love your daughter, and presents are o.k. anytime of the year.
2006-11-24 17:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is no biblical standing in your friends oppinion...and inmy oppinion they are overstepping their line as a friend. Just make sure your child knows that gifts are a blessing from God and that Jesus is the Reason for the SEason
2006-11-24 17:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Robert K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand where it is any of your friend's business how many gifts your daughter gets. You have taught her to do good for others, have you also taught her to appreciate the gifts others give to her? If so, then your friend needs to step back and keep his/her opinions to him/herself.
2006-11-24 17:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kazweg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋