Asian girl dating a persian guy( Should i stop all the phone calls and seeing him period?)?

Question

i been dating this guy for over a month, i just found out he just recently divorced. And yes, i like him very much, but he have an unusual personality, sometimes he were so sweet and nice, and sometimes he just dont cared. He told me that he usually tell a girl upfront that hes not looking for a serious relationships at all, he normally dated a girl him a week or so, like going out the 2 to 4 times, that the max. And he did that to me once too, but somehow he changed his minds, and called me back and we on the dated again. He said, I seems like to-willing put an affort in this relationships, and he said, i did win his heart. And he asked me a weird question that, ( what i wanted in relationship?) I tried to avoid his question, cuz everybody should no what people wants in relationship rite, certain you can and cant do rite? I feel like he only wants me when he cant have me, or when he feeling down,dont know. he said to me, he dont trust girl, but he actually trusted me,

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Well the fact that you just found out he was recently divorced concerns me a little bit. And this took you a month to find out from him.

I understand you like him and he likes you sometimes. You thought they ask a weird question by what he wanted in a relationship. I don't think from his perspective it's a weird question. He just got divorced so he probably doesn't want to jump into getting married again. He's asking you what you want out of the relationship because if you say marriage that probably isn't on his list of things to do today. However if you said just want someone to be with no strings attached… I would think that's the relationship is interested in.

You say you're trying to avoid the question is everyone should know what they want in a relationship. You're missing the point. It's not what you want in the relationship or he once in the relationship. The real question is when both of you spell out your relationships to each other and their goals are they compatible.

It is not often that two people share the same long-term goals. In your situation where the two of you have different cultures one is Asian and one is Persian (Iran) the goals and expectations can be exceptionally different.


Mark
Author GirlstelAll

Answer 3

First of all, don't be available if he calls you last minute, tell him if he wants to go out he has to give you notice and call a few days ahead. Secondly, in today's world, people want a lot of different things out of relationships so it's not obvious and he shouldn't know, it's okay and good to have that conversation. I am dating a guy from pakistan, and most likely if he's anything at all like him, he wants a girl he can totally respect and has respect for herself. He thinks that most girls are nasty because they sleep around too much or are "easy" and that obviously translates to them as "nasty". I think people that are like that are nasty too, so him and I both think alike on most of the relationship issues. You have a mind of your own too, it's not only his decision what happens, so decide what you want to do.

Answer 4

he's just giving you a snow job. my dear. you'll do fine for now for him. you decide if you want to be lingering around waiting for him. he won't treat you well in the end. its there way. women are less important in there culture thats just the way it is. though he will tell you differently its all a pack of lies and htat his mother and dad have the best marriage.

use your judjgement

Answer 5

I have a question for you.. You are aware that Iran (Persia) is in Asia.. So your dude is Asian also...

Answer 6

my sincere advice would be, avoid this guy. He is not trust worthy.