is it wrong to love some one alot older?

Question

i love someone 6 years older than me. please dont judge me or call me a sicko. maybe it's puppy love.

I'm 14 years old

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with it, especially if your feelings are genuine, but keep in mind that you could get hurt pretty bad given you start up a relationship. He could use you, or date you for a while but then flat out tell you that he's uncomfortable. Six years is not that big of a difference, but even age differences like that could result in some professional frowning-down on his part (like if he has a big corporate job and they find out he's seeing someone younger). But like I said, six years isn't that MUCh of a difference to be worried about. I knew someone who was about 19 or 20 and she dated a 36 year old guy, but they broke up because of the age difference.

I just read your edit...I have to tell you that twenty is a whole different world from fourteen. So like I said, be careful!

Answer 2

It depends on how old you are now. A 12 yr old liking an 18 yr old is most likely puppy love. A 30 yr old with a 36 yr old is normal.

The difference is that during the teen years and even 20's, most people are still maturing and becoming the person they will be. After about 25, most people pass out of psychological adolescence (some never do!), and so the age difference is not so important for two people working on an adult level.

Best Wishes,

Sue

Answer 3

I think it is not wrong. You know 6 yrs. is not "alot older" special if you are the girl bec. we as a woman we need a man that more mature to us that can take care of us and special pampering us. But according to you its kinda "puppy love" I suggest that take your time and don't be aggressive make sure when you or I rather say if you enter in a relationship you are already to take all the consequence but I have a hint for you. If you want a trustworthy, kind and all the positive value that man can have. look for a man that has a God in his live

Answer 4

loving someone 6 years older is ok as long as you realize what you might be getting into. my boyfriend is 6 years older than me and we love each other to death but its not easy for us. people arent very accepting and they will question you. we get through it though because we love each other. im not sure if at 14 you are ready for something this serious. perhaps its infatuation and not love. does the other person feel the same way? theres lots to think about. hope this helps.

Answer 5

it could be puppy love, but in my opinion there is nothing wrong with having feelings for someone older. After all Ron Stewarts ex-wife was 25 years younger then he was so i wouldn't feel bad about caring for someone only six years older. Good luck hope you find happiness

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong with that, and 6 years isn't too much of a difference. Hey - my husband is 10 years older than I am and everything is great. Good luck :)

Answer 7

Oh of course it's not wrong. It is probably puppy love though. I love a guy that's about 6 years older too. He's one of my best friends and always looks out for me! ~Rin

Answer 8

My husband is 7 years younger than I am, but it depends how old you are. If you're over 20 is ok, but a 14 year old and a 20 year old is kinda weird.

Answer 9

No. It's what you do with the love and how old you are...he may be the sicko!

Any man can love a chid better than someone your age can. That's why it'a against the law!

Think about it!

Answer 10

Well it all matters on how old you are and how he is . Im not judging you because when i was yonger i dated a 22 year old we were together for 3 years until things started to get phsycal just be careful