Ok, I'm a Christian, and I don't have casual sex, but what if down the road i really wanted to make love to my long-time g/f. Is there anything I can do to make it ok?
2006-11-24 16:54:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
LET ME make it clear that I'm wanting to do it from hornyness, I really love her and since giving a parter one's body is an extreme show of love I was asking if it was ok if it was out of love and not lust.
2006-11-24 17:19:38 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with premarital sex. there is no place in the Bible that says there is anything wrong with it...no where.
It has been proven that those who abstain actually have higher rates of STD's more pregnancies and a higher divorce rate. Because those who do abstinence do not have the experiences of life in the sexual area.
I have given several sites for you to read over then make up your own mind. and before anyone gives me a thumbs down I suggest you read as well. Education is best
2006-11-24 17:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really dude as you said u are a christian ,u believe in what the bible says. Bible doen't use the term pre-marital sex, it used terms like adultery, self abuse..etc.
if some where down the line you are tempted, you gotta hold it back 'coz sex is sacred and meant only for the married. as sex is the symbolic form of the covenant made between a husband and a wife. Covenant is not a contract, its life-long.
As humans we do not act upon by the hunger of the flesh alone but by the spirit and mind as well. If it was by the flesh of hunger of flesh, then rape would have been justified.
2006-11-24 17:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer... Get Married
(I am not suggesting that you get married to have sex, but that sex is only OK under a covenant of marriage)
Long answer
A few commandments to keep in mind.
"Thou shalt not commit Adultery." Does this apply to you now that you are not married? Of course, adultery is the unlawful association of men and women. Although generally having reference to illicit activity of married persons, the scripture (bible) often does not distinguish between the married and the unmarried. Sexual intercourse on the part of the unmarried is known as fornication, and is one of the grossest types of sex immorality (see 1 Thess 4:3, 1 Cor 6:9-11, 1 Cor 5:9-13 KJV)
I hope that helps
2006-11-24 17:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Chachito 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most of christian do adultry before marriage. Islam has great objection against adultry before marriage. The people who strictly practice Islam and believe in segregation of sexes are free from these evils.
At an average, in america, every Christian boy do sex 8 girls. That is why the sexually transmitted diseases are very common in that society. About 1,000,000 Christian girls are rapped in america every year.
If you follow the code of ethics of Islam, you can avoid such disasters. So come towards Allah and Islam.
2006-11-24 17:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by Asif S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't have anything to do with being a Christian, but the responsible thing to do would be to get married, and then have all of the sex you want.
2006-11-24 16:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are setting yourself up for grief.
The sanitary laws of the Old Testament were designed to keep you from excessive bacteria so you wouldn't get sick.
God designed you and knows how to keep you healthy and happy.
If you have sex with your g/f, you will be robbing her of her ability to obey the requirement to honor and respect you if you become her husband.
When your wife doesn't respect you, it makes it impossible to love her. So you'll be robbing yourself of the ability to obey the admonition to husbands to love your wife.
You're setting yourself up for failure and likely for divorce.
You want a happy life? Start by loving your g/f now. How do you do that? By putting what's best for her above your selfish desire for sex before marriage. What's best for her is to remain pure until her marriage night, whether that includes you or not.
2006-11-24 17:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could marry her.According to most faiths that's your only chance.I think if your in a loving committed relationship,and your careful its okay if you both feel comfortable doing it.Just be respectful and sure that neither one of you would regret your choice.
2006-11-24 17:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by melissa f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really planning on marrying,,,I believe it is acceptable in God's eyes.He sees the heart and if you "do it"just out of lust then he will not bless you.Peace and God Bless You!
2006-11-24 17:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her to make it ok. Other than that, try not to do it until you are married. Really try, but if you do end up doing it, turn to God for forgiveness and do it no more until you are married.
2006-11-24 16:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by lees girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Get married first.
2006-11-24 16:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by Canuck Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋