I cant help but hate my sister-in-law. Or can i?

Question

For the sake of conversation We'll call my Sister in Law, Lefty. Now, Lefty is SO seemingly democrat, and im FAR right wing conservitive. She's a tree huggin' environmentalist who believes in over-analizing everything. She practices Yoga and loves to salsa dance. She admits to being selfish and will take a whole role of pictures of her fat *** face and think shes beautiful. She will call my wife and talk for an hour about herself then get off the phone without asking about how shes doing! Every week shes in love with a new guy who happens to NEVER have a normal name or be white like she is for that matter and she has a MASTER DEGREE IN OPERA!!!! OPERA i say!!!!!! She even added an "H" to the end of her name just because it sounds pretty, yet she doesnt pronounce her name with the "H" as i believe the "H" is silent when its at the end! Her and I dont get along and we both know it, but i can see that shes going to be around for a LONG time and this is getting old real quick, Now wh

Answer 1

just accept that your two totally different personalities,, and you dont have to especially like her, you should be civil if possible,,, but at same time, what exactly has she done to you to cause you to feel hate??? pehaps , hopefully, you mean dislike? i feel there are reasons to hate someone, if they have harmed you or your family directly,,,, but from what you describe, she hasnt

ps: from your other question you asked on here, it doesnt seem like you like your wife very much either ,, so why would you care if her sister doesnt ask how she is ?

Answer 2

Good grief, this is very petty stuff! Still, I feel for you so here is
what I have to say. You said she loves to salsa dance? If she IS
fat then you know she's doing the salsa with a large bag of nachos
and it sounds to me like she needs to practice
yogurt not yoga. I know all about those fat, pig-like girls who think
they're so beautiful. It's pathetic, to say the least.
I don't know how your spouse is handling this but if your spouse
is on your side then may I make a suggestion that you start
pulling ranks on this nuisance of an in-law by telling her that you
have more rights to her sibling than she does? That it's your home,
your phone, your privacy that is being encroached upon and that
you have no interest in her calling your home with her stupid
rantings and ask her to get a life. Better yet, say: " I've upped
my standards, now up yours!" <- I love that one.
Remember this, you married her sibling NOT the whole family.

Answer 3

Not sure just what it is that you have had enough of here. The biggest question here is this...So what? Why do you care whether or not she suffers from vanity, or what her politics are, or what she wears, or her education, or how she exercises, or who she dates, or how she spells her name? What is all this to you? How could any of this possibly affect your life and why are you allowing it to affect you to this point? The problem isn't your sister in law, the problem is with you. You have a great deal of hostility toward someone who has done nothing to you. So what if she is annoying? Walk out of the room and into a good therapist's office. You need to work this out before you hurt someone.

Answer 4

You sound petty and ridiculous. Get over it. None of this is important. There are far more serious things in life to be upset about.
You are hurting yourself more than anyone. Let go of the anger and your blood pressure will go down. Laugh at the situation.

Answer 5

Sounds like someone has a big ego. Since you HAVE to deal with her just be polite but try not to interact with her. Good luck!

Answer 6

**********u r such a selfish ,unconsiderate and pathetic person******Why all the big ho-ha whenever she calls yr wife,u gets hysterical...jealousy wont get u anywhere..Go and get a life..instead of all these naive childish complaints u r making up and telling the whole world....