Well, i was wondering what is you opnion on there not being a father in childrens lifes? I mean i grew up without hardly no contact with my dad {im 15} and so far im fine.. I think some pepole can with with it and some hate it.. Also, i poster a question a few days ago, and my friend wanted a baby, and hes only 16.. well he said that he wants a baby so that he can give a baby something he never had {a father} and his mom died like 4 or 5 years ago.. do you think that teen boys that have no father feel alot of pain and suffering because they have no father in there life?
2006-11-24 16:39:46 · 14 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think a lot of teens feel pain due to lack of a father. I think a lot of them don't even know what is missing. But a father is very important.
I know one boy who had a lot of trouble and was in Juvenal Hall and drug rehab. He was telling me one time about the "weird" thing the therapists were saying in group therapy. They were saying that a lot of the boys' problems were related to their fathers. He said to me, "How can my father have anything to do with my problems, when I hardly ever see him?" His mother also thought this was a "weird" idea. I said that it was the fact that his father wasn't involved in his life, but spent most of his time drunk instead, that the therapists thought was harming the son. Not to mention the abusive stepfather. The boy and his mom just couldn't see that this was a problem.
I agree that some kids handle the situation better than others, and so do some mothers.
My own daughter was raised without a father, and I think this had a negative effect on her despite the best I could do for her. I think she was always looking for male affection, and would do anything for a guy. Anything. I feel so sad that she feels there is only one way to get a man's love. By the way, she did pretty well until she was fifteen also.
But like you said, everybody's different.
The sister of the boy I mentioned, same mother and father, had her problems but determined to have a better life. She's in the Navy now and has a nice boyfriend. She's a very responsible person.
2006-11-24 17:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off. You cant see the things, you miss out on with a father. Intill it hits you hard. So people never see it. But having a Older male, filling in as a Father type. Helps, as long as it don't go past that. Second, Teens boys. Want the love of a father. If they don't get it. Than they seek other ways to get love. From having a baby. Than giving the baby a father. But its not a good choice to. Have a baby at a young age. Tell your friend. To hold off a few years. A baby will change everything.In his life. For the good, and the bad. Good Luck.
2006-11-25 00:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetblue85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A teenager is not a good age to become a dad or mom. During that time, is very stressful, developing from a child to an adult. Bodies and minds change. After a good education, and dating, and spending time with the right person, that's a good time to plan. Raising a child is very serious business, not something to be taken lightly. A boy needs a father to look up to, confine in, and to copy from.
2006-11-25 00:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so my cousin says that when he gets a child one day he will be there cause his dad wasn't there for him. U can grow up perfectly fined w/out a father figure in ur life some people just want that father figure there. my dad i mostly always around for me the only time he isn't i when he is workin and he works alot so i can go to a $5500+ school. i know that my mom couldn't do it alone he makes me mad something but i am very thankful for him. and i'm sorry about ur mom cause i am also 15 and i would go crazy if my mom wasn't alive well i think the father son relationship is like mother daughter cause there are things thats a boy can say to a man that he can't say to a woman so...
~That's wat I think
2006-11-25 00:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by savedgirlp3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad moved out a few years ago, and I visit him every so often, but when I don't I'm fine, I just had to get used to it.
Well, his position is different. His mom died and his father is gone...so he has no contact with his parents, except in prayer and thought. I guess it just effects different people differently. People live different lives. Everyone has a different story. His might be more painful than yours and mine.
2006-11-25 07:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know they do. My husband of 4 years still misses his dad and feels allot of pain since he lost his dad at the age of 8. He is now 28 and he still has problems with not having a dad for so long. I also think that he don't love people like most people do because of it.
2006-11-25 00:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by fiji2litre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up without my father and my brother grew up without his father. We are both fine, I am 27 married and have two children. I think it all depends on how you deal with it.
2006-11-25 00:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by AMC615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do. But fathering a child is no solution. They have been deprived of learning what a father or a good father is.
2006-11-25 00:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure..that teen is without his mom neither dad..so he wanted a baby coz he want to be a friend for this baby as want to make a family to feel that he is able to do it...he's young, even he doesn't realize, but in his inconscious,he need a baby to say that he is able to do a family...w his parents weren't able?
it's something psycchique...but in his age he shouldn't do it... he should have others interests
2006-11-25 07:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate my father. he beat me and my brothers and sisters and hit my mom around. when I was 8 he told me he wanted to marry me. I have nightmares about him.
PS that kid needs to wait till he's 20 to have kid. at least have ahouse and a job.
2006-11-25 00:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by DIRI-83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋