Well, I'm a 23 year old male virgin studying Psychology at Stanford - I remember learning in my Psych Class that people who aren't in (or who never had) any intimate relationships cut short their life span by about 15-20 years. Is their any way around this (besides getting a gf)? I have never been in any kind of relationship throughout my life. I want to live as long as I can while remaining a virgin and it angers me to know that I'll die earlier just because I'll be a single virgin. I know that I'll never get into or want to get into an intimate relationship but I'm sure that I will want to eventually have two children by adoption (or cloning if legalized). Can a single guy adopt children?
Is it actually true that male virgins older than 20 are looked down at? I'm an agnostic.
Anyways, any tips any of you have would be great. I just want to live as long as I can.
2006-11-24 16:26:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually, male virgins over the age of 20 are admired.
And you may think you don't ever want a relationship, but that's most likely because you haven't met the right person yet.
Maybe all the psychology studying is getting to you ... o_O
No offence, I've been thinking about studying it myself, but ... I really have never in my life heard of another person who has gone their entire lives without being in a relationship or being intimate with another person.
Getting down on the psychological level ... don't you think that by NOT having a relationship with someone and never being intimate it will somehow effect you through your life?
If you plan on being a psychologist and people come to you with their personal problems regarding their sex life or their significant other ... don't you think it will be a little hypocritical of you to tell them how to fix their problems when you've never even remotely come close to that yourself?
Are you just going to sit on the side lines your whole life, yet tell other people how to achieve a happy love life?
Just curious ...
2006-11-24 16:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're at Stanford so you should at least know that the picture is a thousand times more complex than this. It's not that if you don't have sex than you'll die young. It's if that you're not the type to end up in a relationship, what else are you likely to do/not do... or what kind of life are you leading that prevents you from being in a relationship? Don't worry. Most people don't look down on virgins. Would you mind explaining why you are so sure that you won't have sex, though?
2006-11-25 12:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by solaralley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. and most people would not look down on this.
lack of sex has nothing to do with your life span. not sure where you came up with that one.. life span is based on being physically healtly. eat right and get lots of exersise and avoid drugs, alcohol and pollution, and you will live into your 80s!
i think the real issue here is that it is not considered natural to not want sex. you might have a hormone problem.. talk to your doctor and explain that you don't seem to have a sex drive.
also, do you really not want a relationship? or are you just bitter that you didn't get to experience teenage love?
i was like that.. i never had teenage love, and i went thru major depression in my early 20s.. but when i was 24, i had a major personality change.. i learned to like myself and i gained confidence in myself.. and this made me more attractive as a person, and i finally established some meaningful romantic relationships.. my motto in life is "better late than never"
don't give up hope.. 23 is still young. you have lots of life to live and lots of successful experiences to realize..
2006-11-25 00:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its true...people think it has to be something wrong with them like mentally, or they gay or they arent capable of being in a relationship for a long time but i completely look up to yall. I love a virgin man cuz its not many out there. But yea i think a man can adopt two children without any problems. I dont think they will discriminate against u cuz ur a single man. Go for it, it dont matter what people think.
2006-11-25 00:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetheart88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only shallow people look down on you because you're a virgin. (sorry) but It dosent matter if you are a virgin it matters who you are. too many people care about whether people are good in bed or not. that's pretty sick. I wouldnt listen too that life span crap. just follow ur heart but never having sex is not natural!
2006-11-25 00:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by that redheaded chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a hobby or find yourself being passionate about something you like or like to do? Well, put everything you've got into that. Oh and masturbation helps.
2006-11-25 00:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by ElectroMagneticLight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Never get married! PS. No babe. You are honored not disgraced.
2006-11-25 00:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you not have sex?thats weird
2006-11-25 00:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO SEX???HELL NO
2006-11-25 00:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by sweetness01201 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋