Any Tips on Being a Virgin for Life?

Question

Well, I'm a 23 year old male virgin studying Psychology at Stanford - I remember learning in my Psych Class that people who aren't in (or who never had) any intimate relationships cut short their life span by about 15-20 years. Is their any way around this (besides getting a gf)? I have never been in any kind of relationship throughout my life. I want to live as long as I can while remaining a virgin and it angers me to know that I'll die earlier just because I'll be a single virgin. I know that I'll never get into or want to get into an intimate relationship but I'm sure that I will want to eventually have two children by adoption (or cloning if legalized). Can a single guy adopt children?

Is it actually true that male virgins older than 20 are looked down at? I'm an agnostic.


Anyways, any tips any of you have would be great. I just want to live as long as I can.

Answer 1

Well,

I never heard about men who are virgins that cut their life span short by 15-20 yrs. How about those monks in India/Asia? I don't remember hearing anything about them cutting their life span short. And Some of them gone into life without getting with a woman.

Since you haven't being in any type of relationship before, I would give you a suggestion. Is to take everything slowly, and have some friends first before you get into anything too heavy for you to handle.

It will be difficult for a single man to adopt children. Because the agency would like to question this man's sexuality. And is he able to take care of the children welfare, mentally, and physically well. There is lots of things to considered in adopting a child, when the person is single.

Why are you worry about what people think about you and your sexual standards? You are living your life as you see fit. If you pour your life concentration on social welfare, you are putting your emphasis and energy elsewhere, and by so, you are no longer wary or fear of alienation from the society as "Being a Virgin". Remember you are in society that will ridicule (sp) you in anyway or form. Whether you are to accept these lies from individuals and let them daunt you for life and thereby ending your life, It is up you to accept it or walk away from it and become an individual rather be conformed into the society.

Life is beautiful and grand.

And if you wan to live longer, then be a productive individual in society instead of doing nothing and whines about "Labeling"!

There are lot more worst situation and conditions in the world today, then worry about being views of someone who doesn't mean anything to you and how they see you.

They don't know you, only you know yourself. So why should you care what they say about a male virgin?

Wake up and grow UP!

Answer 2

15 - 20 years short is a bit over the top.

But it has nothing to do with not having sex.
Look at how old all the Popes are... and they don't have sex (that I know off).

No... they say that men's life span is reduced when they are not in a relationship to provide them with moral comfort and support.
However, from my point of view, a bad relationship would have to be worse than none at all.

Anyway, I don't know why you want to remain a virgin as sex is one of the very best thing in this goddam life. Does not mean that you have to get married.

But if you want to live longer, there is a simple solution. Get a dog or a cat... or both... for companionship.

What's kill us is stress and loneliness.
Loneliness create stress.
But if you plan to have a couple of kids, you won't need a cat anyway.

But I don't know if you can adopt as a virgin. I think you'll have problems with that one.
Anyone who try to be different in this life becomes suspicious.
Any man who does not have a girlfriend or wife must be homosexual.
Even so I am not a fan of Michael Jackson, just look at the crap he had to go through for the past 20 years for daring to be different.
A virgin man who want to adopt children?
They'll start sreaming "paedophile".
That is the society you have to deal with.
Don't try to rock the boat.

Edit:
I thought I was answering a serious question...
But after looking at your profile and the questions you did ask in the past... you need help... lots of it.
And I am not a psychiatrist...

Answer 3

My question to you is.......Why? Please don't get me wrong there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. I just can not imagine going thru life unloved. I am not talking about the parental/siblng type. I realize that I am a romantic, but I firmly believe that there is someone out there for everyone. You may not meet that person until you are 40-50 yrs old. My husband was 40 when we got married (19 yrs ago). Even though he had lived with another woman he had never been married before. Stay a virgin, but don't give up on being in a realtionship.

Answer 4

If you are a virgin because you are saving the experience for the right girl, good for you.
If you are a virgin because you are germaphobic, don't adopt any children.
Cloning is absurd.
If you are a virgin because you are simply put off by women and intimacy, you may need counseling, and you may not. Since you are studing psychology, you probably think you can diagnose yourself, but you are wrong to attempt it.
If and when you decide you are ready for children, you should be ready for intimacy too.
Some people have some real hangups about sex, enough so that they find it easier not to have it. If that is you, you should get council ling and find out what scarred your outlook on intimacy.
Sex is amazing with a loving and caring person, and it probably will extend your life, it will definitely improve the quality of your life.

Answer 5

I can't speak from a personal point of veiw...

However I believe that intimacy can be found in deep friendships. Many religious celibates live long happy lives so I don't see why you can't live a very long time too.
Abandon your anger over that statistic when looking toward the future you are planning because rigidity and anger are not good life-support systems. You have not chosen virginity to live an angry existence. Instead focus more on feeling connected and fullfilled emotionally to positive, well-meaning, decent people and causes, eat right, and excercising regularly, take cood care of your teeth. Continue to pursue the work that you feel passionate about and look both ways when crossing the street.

:)

Live Long and Prosper
- Mr. Spock

Answer 6

I just can't understand why you want to remain a virgin. Sex is the coolest, greatest, bestest thing ever (okay I am making words up now). There is nothing like it. Just find a lady you have feelings for and go for it. The sexual prime for a male is between the ages of 16-25, and you don't want to miss out. I have to admit I have a buddy that is 27 and still a virgin, and yes we do rip on him a lot behind his back. Dude, next to eating or breathing, it's probably the most basic instinct of all people, why would you deprive yourself of it? It does rule.

Answer 7

If you want to die a virgin, never get involved with a woman in a romantic sense. Stay away from women entirely.

As far as single men adopting children: Some agencies do allow single men to adopt children, but you can only adopt children domestically. Single men are not allowed to adopt internationally.

Some people admire virgins (like me). My brother is a virgin and he is over 40. Some people do look down upon virgins, but just ignore them.

May I ask why you want to be alone?

Answer 8

Wow.

If you're a psyc student you need to reread what you just wrote and evaluate yourself without an objective state of mind.
I'm going to try and do you a favor by doing it for you:
You're clearly bitter and obsessed with the fact that you've never had sex. I wouldn't be surprised if you were SEVERLY depressed or even suicidal. Either that or you're completly retarted (I'm going to be nice and assume you're not).

The reason a life span is normally cut short due to non-participation in intimate activity is because they usually have significant mental illness and lose their sex drive OR commit suicide due to the fact (Statistics show you are SIGNIFICANTLY more likely to die by suicide without intimate exposure)
I'd guess you don’t have any significant mental illness.
You sound like you’re in a tough situation. Unfortunately it’s difficult for me to offer advice to you. The only thing I can suggest is that you really need to change something in your life, mid-life-crisis style before you end up wrecking you own life or committing suicide. As stupid as it sounds I know the following things helped me:
doing ecstasy
becoming borderline alcoholic
getting tattoos
dyeing my hair silly, beautiful colors

As stupid as this stuff sounds it helped me A LOT.
Also I’ll tell you from experience that acting “to sad”, “self-hating”, or “angry at the world” only gives people a reason to dislike you.

I don’t know what else to say, except you really need to sort out whatever you’re going through.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Not having sex will not shorten your life l don't know where you got that one from.

I just had a look at your profile and some of the questions you have been asking are rather scarey. I think you need some professional help. Sooner rather than later. Studying Psychology it scares me to think that you will have input into confused peoples minds in the future.

As far as adopting as a single guy that is very hard. In any adoption they screen you thoroughly and look into every ascpect of your life. They will question your reasons for not having had any intimate relationships. They will look at how stable you are.
Cloning give me a break!!!

As far as living as long as possible eat well, don't smoke, don't drink, reduce stress, exercise and enjoy what you have everyday.

Answer 10

Figure out why you want to remain a virgin. Are you afraid of sex? Do you have concerns about your penis size or shape that are preventing you from engaging in sex? Are you gay but too ashamed or otherwise inhibited from getting close to a man you want?
You sound like you are hiding be hing your Stanford psych studies as an excuse to experience normal sexual functions. Idfyou want to live with that for 100 years, go ahead If you are happy then all the better