College is coming and we're goin different ways.. do we stay together?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year and now college is coming and we dont kno whats going to happen with us. He's going to a college almost 3 hours away from the college im going too, and we both dont drive,, also my parents are moving 12 hours away so during the summer we'll be even farther. we dont know if we should try a long distance relationship and maybe take a bus to visit eachother over weekends or end it.. does anyone know how we should handle this situation?

Answer 1

You should end the romantic aspect of the relationship and switch to being friends until you both graduate (or quit) college. Trying to maintain a long distance relationship is hard enough, but adding the stress of being in a new place, and trying to do well in college classes can make things worse. Since neither of you drive, arranging transportation could be expensive and difficult to schedule, when trying to visit.

Both of you will meet new friends and grow from your experiences in college and you won't be the same people you were in high school. You should stay friends and keep in touch, sharing the news of your new friends, classes, and experiences so that you don't become strangers. Once you both leave school you'll have a better idea of the kinds of carrers you want and what you want to do with your lives.

You may find that after college the two of you will be very different people with different goals from when you were together in high school. If you switch to being friends before going to college, you may not have a romatic relationship anymore, but you will still be friends and a part of each others lives. If you try for a long distance relationship going into college things will most likely end on a sour note over trust issues, at worst you'll end up hating each other, at best you'll just fade from eachother's lives as you go your seperate ways.

I had a long distance relationship with a college girl and it was too much for her to keep up with her classes and try to maintain the relationship with regular emails. Things with us just faded and we haven't spoken since. I think if we just went to being friends, we'd still be talking.

Answer 2

it sounds like you are both being sensible in deciding together what is best. You can try seeing each other, but chances are distance doesn't make the heart grow fonder. You will both develop more interests and mature. You can always agree to stay friends. This is a very heartwrenching decision to make, good luck to you both.

Answer 3

You guys are not too far away. Keep seeing each other when possible, at least once a month and make the time you spend together really count. No fighting.