Christians, I'm confused. I'm Atheist, but was married to a guy who was a Christian?

Question

Everytime he did something wrong. Drugs, Alcohol, abused me, etc, he prayed and prayed for forgiveness. Apparently he got it as he felt fine about the awful things he did as soon as he was "forgiven"..Is that the way it works??? I'm serious, so please explain.

edit: yes, I did call the cops, many times. He was eventually put in jail, I then divorced him. thks.

Answer 1

When i do bad things I never feel bad about them right away as I accepted to do my action so it tends to take a bit to catch up to me. However once I start reflecting I feel guilt and lots of it. My guilt is penance. As far as some idiot praying and doing bad stuff again than praying nah it doesnt work like this. It is as if they are doing things in vein and I feel when you do it in vein that is a true sin. If your just an idiot like me and make mistakes for being natural not knowing better or caring at the moment and you feel true guilt I think that is a more honest repent so to speak.

Answer 2

There is so much more to Judaism than the Old Testament Thats why I don't like SOME Christians, they scream at me when I remind them there sects made up their own laws because they had such a hate for the Jews (and vice versa) they ignored the Jewish Laws. Does that make any sense to you? **Answer to your question I'm not a Bible scholar but I am almost certain that those things listed are not rules but instead just descriptions of what people did because they where rituals of their country. The Jews that I know DO NOT sacarafice animals but themselves (not suiside) they don't eat on some holidays and they can't eat what they want only what the Bible says (and other Jewish books) Please buy some Jewish books or go to a Synagogue I'm a Christian who finds Jewish faith really interesting and I think you would too

Answer 3

sorry about your being Atheist. just kidding. no that is not how "works" although some think so for that i am sorry pick any book of the bible and know this is not so and there are some religions that say once forgiven always forgiven and they need to have their heads examined. From what i see here if you have left him you may have done the right thing and you don"t need to ever to bring him back but we all sin so i would say try to forgive in your heart so that it does not eat you up inside and pray yes pray you don't have to be a "Christian" that he might see the light

Answer 4

Praying for forgiveness is not something that should be done to make us feel better. Praying for forgiveness is realizing that we have sinned against God, and we are asking for his forgiveness. But it should also be followed by repentance. Knowing that what you have done is wrong and turning from it.

So no, it is not just some box to be checked off when you sin, only to go out and repeat that sin over and over. If he truly wanted forgiveness, some change in his actions and behavior should have come from it.

Answer 5

Being a Christian is no promise that you wont sin. Asking forgiveness is no promise you will be forgiven unless you really are sorry. You cant use forgiveness as an excuse to be a jerk. God knows your motives, even if other people dont. Words mean nothing, actions of the heart do.

Answer 6

I am so sorry that this man did all these things to you. This is most definitely not the way it works. I don't blame you for being confused. Honestly his actions make me really question whether or not he could really be saved. The fact is that whether he was or not, that is not what my Jesus is like. And that is not the way a follower of my Jesus should act. Jesus came to set Christians free from their sins and not just to let them get off without punishment for their sins. In Romans, the apostle Paul says, "Shall we continue to sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How can they that are dead to sin continue in it?" Basically if he has been saved from his sins, he may still mess up but he will not continually live that type of life. I am so sad to hear that someone who called themselves a christian would live like that. All I can say is that I am so sorry.

Answer 7

Praying for forgiveness is different than truly repenting. Repentance means "a turning away from" so for him to truly repent he would have had to turn away from ( stop) what he was doing. Sadly so many ppl just ask to be forgiven for something but they do not really turn away from it. God isn't in to white washing someone so they can go out and do the same thing over and over. HE knows our hearts. HE knows if we are just asking that THIS ONE THING be forgiven or if we are saying, in our hearts, that we repent and turn away from this behavior.
I am so sorry that you had to endure this kind of treatment from someone, especially if he was calling himself a Christian while treating you in such a manner. The Bible says that a man is to love his wife even as Christ loved the Church. GOD was sad to see you go through this kind of treatment also. HE loves you and HE has a plan for your life.

Answer 8

This guy sounds like a fake christian, or someone who is not into a lot but pretends to be. Just praying and then right after feeling ok for what he did is not right, you must pray and stop what you are doing forever. it may come back to you, but it iwll come back lesser than before, he'll be able to overcome it then. And... he abused you??? Did you call the cops?

Answer 9

Someone who believes in their head that God is their creator and sent Jesus Christ to pay the debt (death) for our sins is not a Christian.

They may believe they are, at least in their heads, but in their hearts they do not believe, and have not submitted their lives over to Jesus Christ.

Those who believe in all this in their heads and their hearts, start to follow the way that Jesus taught us to go. They may still fail, but will not get right back up after that failure and repeat it again. They would know to stay in the word and in prayer until the battle was won. Drugs and alcohol are both ways in which a person escapes the reality of life on this earth. The abuse of others is an outcome of that escapism.

No matter what your believe system is, you have every obligation to get to personal safety and stay there. Your husbands job is to take care of himself right now and he certainly cannot take care of others. You do not state if he has a pastor or an accountability partner from church. He seems alone in his journey and really needs to have a male guide.

Unfortunately, your husband is not forgiven, as he has never submitted his will to Gods. He knows this in his heart and that could be why he turns back to drugs and alcohol to numb this knowledge.

Use the love that you have for him to try and help him, not personally, but go to his pastor and ask him to speak with and guide this lost soal.

For yourself, read the bible, just one book of it. The book of Romans will help you understand your husbands spiritual condition or non condition as it really is. Romans will help you understand that no one is allowed to continue to break Gods law simply because they can be forgiven, for if we truely believe in and call upon the Lord our God, we will want to follow the laws and will not continue on in the breaking of them, simply to be forgiven again. Once you are done reading this, you will know what your husband already knows. You will understand why he continues to escape the reality of his "human condition".

I truely am grateful that you have removed yourself from this situation and I also hope that you can help get your husband some sort of male guidance. If your husband is not attending church at all, there may be nothing at all you can do except continue to stay clear of him. Just because one uses a word, does not make the word that they use truthful.

Answer 10

Well that's the mentality....Being Christian is great cuz you always have the forgiveness back door.....alot of Christians will tell you that you can't Re-Sin because it doesn't mean anything if you keep asking for forgiveness for the same thing but they will do it anyways. Think about this for a quick second..Ted Haggard the supposed leader of the Evangelical Church in Colorado has been doing meth and sleeping with a gay prostitute....so....Im sure he has asked for forgiveness long ago...but since he re sinned..he will be...according to the bible, burning in hell for all eternity...