Okay, so I've met this guy who's from Mexico...and we've gotten very close (he's one of my best friends right now). We have kissed a little bit, but he prefers to do "other stuff" instead of kissing me. Like he'll play footsie and hold me, but refuses to kiss me. I asked him why he doesn't want to kiss me and he didn't want to tell me, but he said that I was sexy and he likes my body...can someone explain why he doesn't want to kiss me? And yes, he said my breath was good but it's like an emotional thing for him when he kisses someone.
2006-11-24 15:49:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be a cultural thing or it could be that he's into you sexually but not emotionally. With men, more so than with women, sex can be detached and devoid of emotions for the other person. Kissing is different--you are face to face, heart to heart, soul to soul--and a lot more intimate. Kissing is reserved for that special one. If he won't kiss you, you're not that special one in his eyes.
2006-11-24 17:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's like this. Guys and girls consider kissing truly intimate and personal. While we may be more than willing to do "other things" kissing is saved for the person we really care for.
If a guy says you're sexy, it's an indication as to what he wants to do to you. If he says you're beautiful, it's likely he cares for you,
2006-11-24 15:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by DEE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol... must be a mexico thing... jk... my guy is from mexico as well, he kisses me during the day all the time but not so much of the french kissing, he holds that off till we are in bed. Maybe he's just waiting till he has feelings for you. If that is the reason then you gonna have to respect it or leave it. He has his reasons but as long as he's showing you affection in other ways and not just wanting nookie then don't make it a bigger deal than it is
2006-11-24 15:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A kiss can be very dangerous, you know. Maybe he was hurt in the past over a kiss. Try not to be so forward about why he wont talk about it. Ask him something like, "people get hurt and the best thing is to talk about it, don't you think?" Or try getting to know him a little better. Do try being friend before being in a deep relationship with him. It will be more helpful in the future, knowing each other before hand is always better.
2006-11-24 16:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Gilly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, at least as far as I'm concerned. Different perspectives anyhow. Men: sex is sex. Nothing more. To women: Sex is more emotional for us(: Have a past boyfriend. Cheated on me. Was just such lovely emotions I was dealing with(: Anyways, did what he did with the whores. Kissing wasn't involved meaning he somewhat cared as I look at it. - Take care!
2016-03-12 23:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he's attracted by ur hots but not really emotionally in love with you yet. he just wants to get intimate. while a kiss is for a person you truly love.
2006-11-24 15:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if done right, kissing can be a very emotional connection between two people. sometimes with sex or other stuff people can separate their emotions from that. maybe that's his deal, or maybe he doesn't like it. i knew a guy who didn't like to french/tongue kiss. i know people who don't like the though,feel, smell of saliva all around their mouth. you really need to just give him time if you think he's worth it.
2006-11-24 15:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by cute_niss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess he's just not ready to take things to that romantic level yet..
or, could be he isn't romantically/sexually attracted to you.. maybe he just wants to be friends..
i think he owes you an answer as to why he is declining your kissing advances.. unless he is totally confused about his feelings..
you don't want to put too much pressure on him to kissing, but at the same time, you shouldn't have to wait forever..
or, could be he's hiding something.. maybe he doesn't want to kiss you because he has a disease he doesn't want to give you.. who knows??
2006-11-24 15:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know that the spanish men have different customes than the american men.you could explain to him that kissing is an important part of a relationship and that you would like to know why he doesnt like to kiss you like you want him to.if he still wont tell you then he evidently has a big problem. alot of spanish men have wives in mexico and are only here to earn money for their families.some really are not interested in building a future with you because they know that they have a life in mexico.i know this because i dated some spanish men and this is exactly what i went through.they dont want to tell you the truth because they know that you will probably not want them any more.be careful and be sure not to give your heart to a man that already has a wife in his country.
2006-11-24 16:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
depending on a individual upbringing is the most personal form of intamcy shown.Ask him if he sees it heading in that direction or not.there was an old saying about everything else but kissing for that was saved inly for their signifigent other.find out where you stand in this relationship,before you find out that your a female toy.
2006-11-24 15:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by resigned 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋