2006-11-24 15:47:54 · 9 answers · asked by bballgirljv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My dad used to be an abusive alcohol....It was a very painful childhood growing up with all the verbal and mental abuse.....When I turned 22, he completely changed, became a Christian and quit drinking, cold turkey....It took time to heal our relationship, but now I LOVE MY DAD and he really is the best dad anyone could ever want.....We are very close and has been a lot of healing from the past.....He never really apologized, but with his radical change in behavior, I didn't need an apology because actions speak louder than words.....We never talk about the past, because I have forgiven him and I know he is a different person and I choose to let the past go, I can't change it, but only learn from it.....Just be patient and all things will come together.....Best of luck and what a wonderful gift you have, the opportunity for healing your relationship with your dad, most people never get that chance....
2006-11-24 17:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i suggest talking about the abusiveness, although it may seem like a sour not to begin with it has to be done or else you and your father will both have on a facade that a father and daughter relation ship. Also remember not to throw everything in his face, it takes time, i understand this because i had the same situation with my father. I could only do this after i went to Marine training, so i know that its hard but my relationship with my father is a lot better.
2006-11-24 23:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Patches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really difficult. Did he stop being abusive for what reason? Did he get arrested or go to counseling? If he got help and stopped being abusive, then ask forgiveness, and tell him that you forgive him. Ask him what his childhood was like and maybe you can understand his situation. PEace.
2006-11-24 23:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by DREENA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive. Do not forget. Move on. Keep in mind if it was an abusive bf or gf no one would expect you to still have a relationship with them. He did wrong and now you get to set limits on your relationship with him. You have to take him as he is... flawed, sick and in need of some professional help. He in turn must accept the new you...an adult who can protect themselves and set limits.
2006-11-24 23:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and done that. My dad has went as far as stickin a gun to my head be4. The best advice I know to give u is to try to forgive him, u wont be able to forget, but u can forgive, I did.
2006-11-24 23:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father used to beat me. He was not an alcholic. He just beat me when he got angry or stressed. You have to really forgive him in your heart. Then you go up and hug him! He will not see it coming. Tell him you forgive him. Then you start the healing process. It is really difficult but trust me it works. I used to not tell my dad i loved him or hugged him. Now we are the best of friends. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Remember to error is human but to forgive is divine!
2006-11-25 03:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by jessica h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he has changed you can just go places with him spend alot of time with him and just act like it never happend tell him you love him before you go to bed help him whenever he asks for it and when he doesnt just stuff like that
2006-11-24 23:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by you dont know me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive him. But don't let him abuse you.
2006-11-24 23:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by a_poor_misguided_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try family counseling
2006-11-25 00:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by fe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋