I just broke up with my ex boyfriend of 6 months, about 2 weeks ago. I've emailed him a few times just to say hi but never heard back from him. Eventually I'd like to be friends with him but everyone tells me to wait. Have any of you been friends with your ex, and how did you go about it?
2006-11-24 15:41:47 · 18 answers · asked by Mysti1000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on how you left the relationship when it was broken up.
Was there resentment on one side or the other. I think something must be up though if he is not returning your emails. I don't think he sounds ready to try his hand at being friends yet. It may or may not happen so don't put your life on hold. Go seek new friends and if later on in a few months he may return your email one day.
2006-11-24 15:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm still friends with both of my ex-boyfriends. One of them we were friends before we started dating, and after 7 months decided that we would be better off as jsut friends, even though mutual feelings still remain to this day. We still are really close friends and are almsot dating once again but with graduation in spring and my moving across the country and him staying here, who knows what the future will bring, but our friendship won't change. As for the other guy, I broke up with him after 6 weeks because it was just awkward and in no way the right thing to be doing and he took it hard at first but after a week or two we were back to being friends, but i think part of that is we work together and as such had to be civil and its pretty much been forgotten. If you want to remain friends with him, give it time and jsut try talking to him, don't email him, try talking to him. It's alot harder to walk away from a person that it is from an email. Good luck girlie!
2006-11-24 16:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by hahtnamas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've tried being friends with ex-boyfriends and it never really works. Some of them ended up being very immature. One in paticular I stayed friends with for a while, on and off. The problem was I still had feelings for him. Sooner or later I realized the feelings were pointless and we were still friends. We talked all the time and sooner or later we just stopped. If he's not talking to you then I'd say just don't bother. If he wanted to be friends with you he'd talk to you, unless he needs his time. Give him a couple more days and if you don't hear anything from him, forget it!
2006-11-24 15:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ive stayed friends with a few of my ex's...
One I only keep in contact through email...
Another I see occasionally...
and the rest I see when I go out with friends...
sometimes its just really hard to see or even talk to someone because so much is going through your head when you are reminded of them...
your friends are right...wait a bit... because anything you say now will probably only make him hate you more or make him want to get back together with you... its hard to say how long you should wait, but when you do meet up with him again make sure your not by yourself... just so it seems more like a friend situation.
2006-11-24 15:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by andrewlimuts 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need a "cooling off" period.. you can't develop a friendship while the wounds from the break up are fresh and when the feelings of love are still there..
i would have waited at least 2-3 months before even saying hello.
but since you've already e-mailed him, the ball is now in his court. wait for him to reply and accept your friendship.. or, if he never replies, then a friendship is not meant to be.
it takes two to have a friendship.. that is true for any friendship, not just cases of ex's..
the other part to this.. maybe 3 months from now, you won't even want to be friends with him.. maybe by then, you will have moved on with your life..
i have only managed to stay friends with one of my ex's. she was my 2nd girlfriend.. we literally only dated a few months.. it was long distance, and that was the biggest problem...
after the break up, we had to undertake a long cooling off period.. and then we went thru a phase of trying to be friends but still being mad and upset.. it litereally took over a year before we had both truly moved on and gotten over what had happened..
we broke up more than 7 years ago. we are stil friends, but not necessarily close friends.. so yes, it can work, but it is tough, and both have to want it.
2006-11-24 15:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that is so tough going from a romantic relationship point to just being friends,well i am in that same boat i was involved with this guy for about a year and we broke it off and i see him every now and then cause the same buddies,but it can be weird and some just can;t do that but you basicly just have to treat it as another buddy i know it hard to do that but thats how i got threw it and its not like we are the best of friends but at least we talk and can be around one another
2006-11-24 15:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by hotrod4964 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if you broke up, you can still stay friends wit your ex. The only weird thing is that you ll are gonna be talking instead of holding hands and kissing lol, but youll get over it once you dont feel anything.
2006-11-24 15:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer is in your questions: he has not responded to your e-mails and made any attempt to contact you.
I'm sure you only want to be friends with people that also want yo as a friend. Let it go.
No I have not remained friends with any of my exes. Can't say I hate them just don't have any use for them now.
2006-11-24 15:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you shouldn't. Harsh as it may be, most "ex" guys don't like the idea of just being friends with a girl after she broke up with him.
Hope it helps.
Serge
2006-11-24 15:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by arsenies@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it time. You broke up with him...he's probably hurting, and your messages "just to say hi" are confusing to him and re-opens the wound. You didn't want him, now leave him alone. If in the future he wants a friendship...he will find you
2006-11-24 15:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋