theres thise girl whos bin my friend for 3 years and i have had a masive crush on her for a long time now. we kid around alot and she makes flirty jokes with me but theres one big problem.
she has a boyfriend
what the hell do i do
i have asked her what she thinks of me and she said im like a brother to her
2006-11-24 15:23:13 · 9 answers · asked by luis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
UGH! I hate these situations, because I was in the exact same place. Let me tell you something, from my experience. I am sure that this girl that you like is something really special. no doubt in that, but if you are a true friend, you will respect the fact that she is in a relationship. Take a step back and realize that starting a relationship with your good friend can ruin the friendship...ALOT. Are you willing to risk that?
If she thinks of you like a brother.... there is a slim chance that things will change anytime soon.
Just take the back seat, and enjoy the friendship that you have. I am sure that sometimes, you are in an even closer relationship with her than her boyfriend...and that is something to value and take care of. I know that it hurts because you want it so bad. But do you remember when you were little and you wanted that awesome toy?!? It indeed was amazing, but you didnt get.... you were bummed.....but when you opened all your gifts, there were some that we even better! I am sure that there is a girl out there that is even better....just be patient. I know it sucks, but it is only up to YOU to get over it. I hope that I helped a bit.
2006-11-24 15:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by alysia_osorio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think that she's into you, if she says that she considers you a brother than dont push it. stay friends with her, thats the only way to be close to her until she realizes what a great guy you are. Statistics show that the best relationships start out as friendships. Just be there for her whenever she needs you but dont force something that isnt there.
2006-11-24 15:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all stop using the f word and second if you are brother material then move on from the way you talk you are a teen so you have plenty of girls to choose from and lots of time and in a few yrs you wont even remeber having a crush on this girl
2006-11-24 15:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by crazyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to keep up the friendship with her..dont make her feel uncomfortable with knowing you have the crush on her..doing so may cause her to end your friendship and then you'd lose that and her..if she thinks of you as a brother, then thats pretty much all that may come out of this..dont be sad, but at least you have her as a friend, remember that..
2006-11-24 15:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sry dude, but your screwed. i had the same problem, but then i met a different girl, and all the sudden i was over it. i'm still great friends w/ the first girl, and i dated the second for a total of about 2 1/2 months.
2006-11-24 15:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by bahamadude91 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She Might like you. I have an ex that i thought of as my brother. that really kinda ruined the relationship. that and i left him for his brother. but dont try to rush a relationship, she will turn to you when she is ready.
2006-11-24 15:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by blu3_p1x1_st1x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest to first. think whether you would be a better match for her..... compare yourself with her b/f..... maybe hang out with her one on one.... or maye you her and another friend... just try to be more personal....emmm maybe try to hit on her... try to hold her hand.... maybe she will chnage her mind, and fall for you. BUT if you do this you will be also taking a risk and jeoprdizing your close friendship.... are you willing to do so?you also might just wait until and if she breaks up with her b/f you will have more chanses
2006-11-24 15:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn;t see you that way, man. to her you're just a friend. But she does care about you.
2006-11-24 15:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't do anything -- you continue your relationship and soon she will turn to you. =)
2006-11-24 15:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mr.KnowItAll 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋