I need opinons.?

Question

So me and my friend the other day were in Target with her 2 year old. Well he saw this horse and it is spost to be like a real horse and he was playing with and having a good time. Well I was done looking around and I told her I am ready when you are. I know is going to take a minute to get her son away from this toy. So she says we can go. So okay he is whining because he want to go back to the toy. She says no it is time to go. Well we are in the check out line. This lady across the way says to her why are you ignoring your son. We both looked like what this lady is really talking to us. Okay for one I want to know how she was ignoring her son when he is standing down by her feet whining, we all know we wish we could ignore that but you cant. So then the lady said you are showing him you are powerful. Then I stepped in and said excuse me he is the child and she is the mom she is spost to be incharge right? Then I went off on this lady and said to mind her own bussiness. I don't

what else i said, but I am sure it was not nice. The lady said we were wrong and she councles parents on this. So who do you think was wrong the lady for butting in or for me for sticking up for my friend.

Answer 1

the lady was wrong.... i have a 2 yr old as well, and if i didn't ignore her tantrums i would go crazy.... i have a degree in child care and you are not supposed to give attention to a child thowing a fit because that's what they want you to do..... you had every right to say something, but your friend should have said something too.

Answer 2

Some people today think they have the right (and feel the need) to tell other people what they should do with their kids. That drives me crazy! If you had asked for her advice, I could understand it, otherwise, “butt out lady”, It was the mothers place to say something to this woman, and if she did not, she better learn how… for there are a surplus of these people running lose out there. You were just trying to help, thats all.

I am a mother of four and my childrens every wish is not my command, period. I realize some parents think it is, but it just helps nothing.

If my child is acting up in the store, I leave, I don’t care if my shopping cart is full or I am in the check outline. I leave, the child is told they will not be going to the store with me again if they do it again. I take them home, make them go to their rooms (to think about how they behaved) and embarrassing me in the store. Personally, whining make my hair stand on end, so I don’t tolerate it well… and all of my children knows it.

Just my opinion,
Mommy of 4

Answer 3

You should never give in to a child's whining. Period. You SHOULD ignore that. Or you are only setting yourself up for more problems with the child. I dont know what that lady's problem was but as long as you weren't abusing him in the store then she needs to just stay out of it.

If one of my (now older) children whined in the store for something & would not stop then we left the store. At 2 yrs old they arent old enough for you to reason with them so you just have to remove them from the situation. When my kids were old enough to understand I would say BEFORE we went to the store, "We are going to the store for food (or shoes or whatever) NOT toys or candy. If you behave in the store & dont ask me for anything then we will see about a treat before we go home. If you misbehave in the store then we will leave & come home & you will have to go to your room for a while".

Answer 4

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Answer 5

well, mayb ur friend shoulda spoke up but mayb she's not the type (like me) and I think she was doing the right thing. U don't want the kid to know he is getting to u by his behavior or soon he will be the boss. But also don't let him bother other people. I wish I had the guts to stand up like u did. She was a" nosey old biddy!" lol!! I could see if she was spanking him or yelling at him but ignoring his bad behavior was good.

Answer 6

It was none of the lady's business... period. I had to get on a lady about the same thing. I had to tell her to mind her own business. She ws probably just concerned but just think if everyone is in your business.... then what. The kids mom should have spoken up, too.
You did nothing wrong.

Answer 7

The lady was wrong, how dare she? And then tops it off with how she is a professional. (as if that excuses her ignorant behavior)..
As the friend, I see nothing wrong with you jumping in, your friend was probably stunned a complete stranger was telling her how to parent. I probably would have been speechless at her audacity. If you were there, I'd have been thrilled you jumped in on my behalf because I wouldntve known what to say.

Answer 8

You were right and the lady was totally wrong to stick her nose in and for that matter, how do you actually know she was a counselor? She might have just said that because you spoke up to her.

I say bravo to you for standing up for your friend!

Answer 9

The lady was wrong
A) for butting in
B) for giving bad advice
Your friend IS in charge of her son and does NOT have to address or cater to his every whimper and whine. Your friend sounds like a good parent and that lady sounds nosy.

Answer 10

it was none of her business!! parents raise thier children a little differently, than others....but maybe instead of completely ignoring him, she should have told him "no, we have to go bye bye now" all kids whine like that, and it's people who get annoyed by it that feel the need to butt in and say something, because really, they are trying to tell you to shut your kid up...and those people obviously dont have children of thier own!!

your friend needs to just keep doing what she's doing....and of course your child needs to see you are powerful...otherwise they become the authority!