theres thise girl whos bin my friend for 3 years and i have had a masive crush on her for a long time now. we kid around alot and she makes flirty jokes with me but theres one big problem.
she has a boyfriend
what the hell do i do
i have asked her what she thinks of me and she said im like a brother to her
2006-11-24 15:16:38 · 7 answers · asked by luis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She mainly sees you as a friend for now, but if she has a BF I wouldn't try asking her out anytime soon. If she is a flirty person she will make flirty jokes with you - just observe her with other guys other than her BF. However, if you are the only one she does this to she might have a thing for you, but might not know it. Basically if you asked her what she thinks of you she will deny it. The best thing you can do is to get her to think about you more. Flirt with her more, joke around more, and treat her like you would treat any girl you would flirt wit, but be caucious of her BF. If they are serious she won't notice, but if they are not she will respond. IF so this means she does like you, so do it every so ofte, but not ALL the time. This will make her think "Why isn't he flirting with me? DId he lose intrest?" and this will drive her crazy. Evetually, being with her BF will become mundan and you'll be her new crush. Simple, but time consuming.
2006-11-24 16:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, Been there done that. It is a b&(&h to get from friend to more than friend. You have it real bad because she used the close out word "your like a brother to me" translation no sex. If your good friends with her then wait for your time aka when her boyfriend starts messing up and then be a crying shoulder and hint of all the things he's done wrong. When they break up. stick close and wait for the rebound. Hard to time hard core.
There is so much wrong with this morally but hey you asked I stopped doing it to girls cause after a while it will start to get at you bad if you have any soul at all. The best way wait look else where forget about her and go else where then she will come to you if you really do it. In the long run you are better off with out her . Look else were and give other people a chance you will find what you are looking for. One more thing dating a girl that was your friend for along time is not fun everything changes and once the realsionship begins your hopes of ever haveing that same friendship go with it.
2006-11-24 23:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Bleed the Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could take the risk and just tell her how you feel. Even tho she said you are like a brother to her she might have been confused by the question and not known what to say so it's possible she feels other things for you too. But it's possible if you tell her and she doesn't feel the same the friendship will be awkward after that.
Maybe you could tell her that you know she has a boyfriend right now but if that doesn't work out you guys get along really well and like each other alot so maybe you could see if there's more to your friendship.
If you choose to speak up it will change things at least a little so you need to decide if it's worth the risk or if you can keep going on the way things are (which is difficult too). Good luck. I really hope it works out for you.
2006-11-24 23:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stop your life for her wait see what happen with this new guy frist then when the time is right and you will know when the time is right tell her how you feel all she can say is yes or no but be ready for one. dont do anything thayt may hurt you friendship because in the end that what you will miss most the fact that she was your friend
2006-11-24 23:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by tacha_cb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? The EXACT same thing happend to me and I cryed forever until I finally got over him. I grew up with him. We did everything together but in the end I got over him and moved on. I wish we could have been together but it didn't work out. too much sister material for him i guess. it hurts like hell i know. good luck!
2006-11-24 23:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by that redheaded chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, tell her you love her and give her flowers and lots'o chocolate!!!! and beat up her bf and she'll be pisd but then she'll fall into ur arms and love u madly
2006-11-24 23:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by awesome babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not intrested!
2006-11-24 23:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by DREAMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋