I actually dont know if its love.
but we flirt all the time and compliment eachother everytime we see one another.
he has had many affairs before.
and my best friend says once i turn 18 we will have an affair.
is that wrong.. he is 36 years older then me.
thats the problem
and my favorite number is 36♥
2006-11-24 15:09:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
one of the girls I went to high school with had a very similar relationship--they are still married today, more than 15 years later. Love comes wherever you find it--I wish you luck
2006-11-24 15:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have your whole life ahead of you, I'd hate for you to get involved in something that will end up hurting you. A 36 year old man is plenty aware (probably) of what he wants out of life. You, on the other hand, I feel, do not. You have not begun to live yet. Why would you want to have an 'affair' with anyone? The fact that you said affair and not relationship leads me to think that he is married or otherwise obligated already to someone. Take it from someone who knows, leave it alone. There will be plenty of young men near your own age with out going there. A man of that age would mostly want only one thing from someone your age sweetheart. Live and acquire knowledge. There will be plenty of time for play. May God Bless
2006-11-24 18:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a couple of crushes on men that were much older than I was when I was your age (My English Lit. teacher for one). I don't think it is wrong to have a crush (cause that is what it is) but it would be wrong to have an affair. He's way too old and too experienced for you. Find a guy who is in the same stage of life as you are, you'll be able to relate better and there will be less of a chance that he will try to control you.
Good Luck.
2006-11-24 15:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by MissHelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very large age gap, young lady, especially since you're not even 18 yet.
If he's had many affairs before, who says he won't continue to do so with you?
I'd suggest cutting off all communication with this man as soon as possible. He doesn't sound like he's relationship material.
You most likely only like him because he compliments you. So you just need to ignore him and you'll soon realise how many guys there are your own age who can make you feel just as special.
2006-11-24 15:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
please rethink this. 36 years is an immense age difference, not to mention the maturity difference.....this man has lived a lot longer than you and experienced a great deal. you are still a child. what if this man uses you and leaves? he will take something special from you and you will have your whole life ahead of you to mend, but this man has already gone through that path...in some ways, he has "nothing to lose" by having an affair with a young girl. be careful, my suggestion is to rethink your "love" it could simply be infatuation with a much older man. be SAFE.
2006-11-24 15:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by ultra _ girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yea I would say it's wrong. Being in a serious relationship with someone older than you is going to be very difficult since you still want to experience new things he may have already done them. Although you may "love" it's going to take a lot of effort on both your parts for it to work because of the age gap.
2006-11-24 15:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by Alex S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh wow
First off this should be in the singles and dating section, second off...have fun but be very careful. He could just be looking for sex so look out for that. I have a very similar situation and I wish I could tell you the magic answer but....just look out, and if you really love each other it can work. 36 is a bit much but...it could happen...again be careful and talk to him about it.
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shadowgirl
2006-11-24 15:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. T, formerly known as Shadow. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this hardly belongs in religion and spirituality. but i'll answer it anyway--it isn't love, it's probably infatuation or lust. he's more like a father than a lover for you and you might want to explore that relationship before you go around trying to have sex with the old guy.
2006-11-24 15:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, Yes, Yes. it is wrong. This man is twice your age and should know better. Be very careful or you will bound to be the one who gets hurt in the end.
2006-11-24 15:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok to be in love with anyone who can truly be yours. Having an affair is not love.
2006-11-24 15:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋