I have always struggled with my weight. The least I've weighted is 130 and the most is now at 180. I have big hips, thighs and boobs too. When I weighed 130, my ex said he thought I was going to break. Now at 180, I don't know if that's attractive or not.
2006-11-24 14:59:36 · 28 answers · asked by imperial_valley_lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-24 15:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bridget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter. No matter what you look like within reason, roughly 1% of the population is going to be highly motivated to be with you. About 10% of the population will be somewhat motivated. Of the rest, half will like you in general while the other half think you are a pig. As you gain and lose weight or dye your hair, change your clothes, whatever, the exact people change (yet remains mostly random) while the percentage stays the same. This is known as the 1% rule and is one of the most effective ideas with regard to dating and relationships. Instead of trying to be attractive, people concentrate on identifying their 1%. This DRAMATICALLY increases their success rate.
That being said, there is a related issue that DOES effect who and how many people are attracted to you. If the reason you gained the weight is because you've become a lazy slob who no longer cares how she looks, that will cause men to not like you. Not the weight, but the attitude that comes across and the behaviors that go along with it. These are extremely unattractive except to very low quality men. It will drive good men away from you while, at the same time drawing the scum of the earth your way.
Men are not attracted to looks, in general. What I mean by this is there is no specific look that universally attracts men in general. This holds for hair, dress, weight, makeup, ethnicity etc. Whatever your specifics are, roughly the same number of men will be attracted to you and who they are will mostly be random.
Men are attracted by character. Anything that would make you a good wife and mother, is universally attractive to men. Are you a good person? Loyal? Loving? Happy? Warm? These things attract all normal men equally. Abnormal men (drug users/dealers, felons, abusers, psychos etc.) are universally repelled by this.
Further, people tend to pair up together along two attributes.....intelligence (smart people like smart people while dumb people like dumb people) and race. For the most part, people date and marry within their own race and the percentage of inter-racial pairings is stable over time (at least for the last several hundred years).
2006-11-24 23:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey no your not unattractive and as long as your happy with yourself then it shouldnt matter what anyone thinks. If a man truly loves you then he would love you no matter what you look like.
Yes we all would like to be that weight again but unfortunatley for some of us its just not maintainable. Believe I have tried I am 5'9 and had 4 children in 17 years 2 children I just had recently back to back and now I weigh 215.
Sure at times I feel that way but I am not gonna try and work myself to death just to make others happy. I do plan to try and lose some weight but do it naturally and what I am happy with. Just because the weight number sounds high doesnt mean your fat. remember muscle mass weighs more than fat.
You sound like a woman. From what you described with body shape is how a normal woman sounds.
Nothing wrong with you.
2006-11-24 23:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very attractive. I am the same weight, but slightly taller. Most women are this size and weight. I would think that you are attractive. Don't let a man make you feel unattractive. If he has that affect on you you should dump him! It is better to be bigger than skin and bones!
2006-11-24 23:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie98_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel attractive? Do you like the way you look? It all depends on your build. You may look just great with your current measurements! I am 5'8, 150 and wear an 11 and that's too heavy for me personally. I just feel yucky for me. I feel much better at a lower weight and more attractive. Its all in the way YOU feel!!
I don't know what she means by most black guys? weird
2006-11-24 23:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean but if you went back to your 130lbs on your 5'3" frame that could be potentially really sexy but 180 is just a little overweight for my taste being on the frame you have.
2006-11-24 23:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by TravisButtaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon the man and his tastes.. Some like the voluptuous look, others do not...So attractive is in the eye of the beholder.
2006-11-24 23:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by worldsource19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu may not be unattractive, but you sound like you are not happy with the weight you have.
Can you losde the 50 pounds? At the very least, it would help with your mental happiness
2006-11-24 23:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Don't try to keep up with what the media wants women to look like it is unhealthy.
You sound very attractive the way you are.
2006-11-24 23:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but i would have to say that is unattractive. You should try to lose weight, excersize and eat healthier are your best bet. If you start eating healthier and excersize once a day, I guarantee you will start to see results fast.
2006-11-24 23:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by juz098 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋