ok, I'm a really nice, Christian girl. But lately, I think I maight have a crush on one of my friends.....who's a female. She's really cool, (really)pretty, outgoing, and I'm really happy when I'm with her. And she's bi. But I'm still not sure. What should I do??????
2006-11-24 14:58:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it may not be what you think it is. give it a little time and if you are 100% sure that you like her then go for it but be warned that there are heaps of ppl out there who dont support gays and lesbians
2006-11-24 15:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi too... tell her how you feel and see if she likes you the same way too. Then just take it one step at a time. It's weird going into unknown territory like that but if it's a part of you then you need to find out. Kissing a girl should feel no different than kissing a guy. I kissed a girl for the first time and loved it but was still skiddish about doing anything so I waited till I was ready. About 7 months later I was ready and everything went fine. I haven't been with a girl since because I have found a nice man now but if I'm ever available again and the opportunity comes I'd jump on it. You should take your time but find out who you truely are and if it is a part of you. I didn't have any idea I liked girls till I was 24, I even thought it was a little gross before but now it's hot~! You can't help who you fall in love with or what gender you fall for so don't fight it. It's your life and you deserve to be happy
2006-11-24 23:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by rayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You like hanging out with her and she is cool. Ask you're self what why you are attracted to her. You might just be getting in touch with your sexuality and you are attracted to her character traits and exactly her physical being. I would say there is nothing wrong with being friends, and , if it turns out you are attracted to women, that is okay as well. Just take a stock of yourself and realize a crush is a normal thing, and doesn't mean anything serious.
2006-11-24 23:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by dcbongo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it!
Love is love.. you can love a woman or a man but why not jsut try worst thing happens you dont like it..
or maybe you do..you may have to deal with assholes for a while but be proud of who you are because you are fabulous and God loves everyone!
good luck to you on finding happiness check out my myspace if you ever need advice!
2006-11-24 23:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by www.myspace.com/yourmomentofjen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her about it, it might help you get clearer on your own feelings. Oh, and there'll no doubt be some people who answer that it's wrong because you're a Christian, but remember, love is God-given.
2006-11-24 23:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by peaceful_sorceress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a christian then you know the answer to that question...stay away from that situation. Homosexualaity is a sin and can cause you so many problems later in life, even if you just experiment. Pray about it and try to avoid being around the girl..she may be attracted to you because she is a homosexual but you DONT have to give in to it.
2006-11-24 23:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by chicwitpurpose 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie as a Christian (which I am) let me tell you this is SERIOUS. In 2 Cronicle 6:14, it talks baotu being unevelnly yoked askign how can 2 walk itn hat way.... You being friends w/ this young girl is ok, I guess, but issue is your spiritual walk w/ Christ is not strong enuff right now foryou to continue this relationship w/ a person that is making a decision abotu their sexuality. The Bible speaks that we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but spirits, etc. The bi-sexuality of yoru friend is not just her sexuality, but it is a spirit, that your spirit is is becoming open to . I imagine that she has conversations w/ you about her sexual encounters w/ boys and girls. That stuff gets in your spirit and begins to make you question or compromise those things that YOU KNOW are not of God. Regardless of how nice she is or you are, the tricks and tactics of the enemy (devil) are to kill, steal, and destroy. That spirit you are starting to pick up is out to steal the promise and kill the things that God has predestined for your life. I know it may be hard to say goodbye to yoru friend, but you have got to choose this day whom you will serve. Pray and ask the Lord to help you, ths may be te time to speak w/ one of your youth ministry folsk, parents and certainly read more of the Bible to help you and build you up in your walk w/ Christ. God has a enourmous plan for your life Sweetie, don't allow your spirit to be infested withthe things you know are not inthe will of God, regardless of how nice the person is. Let me ask you this, when the serpent in the Garden misguided Eve, did the bible say he was rude/ugly, unkind. No he was very sly and presented himself to be helpful to Eve, but under the surface it was a trick for Eve and Adam to forfiet what God had ordained for them. Dont let that be for you Sweetie. PRay, read/study the bible, read what it says about spirits and sexual immorality (homosexuality, etc.). If you want to email me thru this site to speak further feel free. As I am tryping this I am praying fo ryou Sweetie, because thi sis NOTHING but an attack against the spirit of christ inside you.
2006-11-24 23:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by BEAUTIFUL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk with her about it. Just the two of you, on a quiet evening with some nice background music, over a bottle of wine.
2006-11-24 23:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say keep your feeling to your self unless you want to act them out but make sure before you do that your sure of yourself,theres nothing wrong in my opinion with liking a girl its common because sometimes they understand us better than a man does so i can understand you being attracted to her i bet sometimes you wich she were a male!
2006-11-24 23:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Debra G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know shes bi, does she like you the same way? if so, then i would ask her out just to get to know her better..if youve never been with another girl, then just let her take over...the only way your gonna get closer to her is by talking to her..let her know how you feel and see what comes out of it..good luck..
2006-11-24 23:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋