I've always planned to have 3 children. I keep being warned, though, about "Jan Brady Syndrome" and told that it's best to have 2 or 4 kids to avoid it. What do you think? Does the middle child always get the short end of the stick? Are middle children more likely to have emotional difficulties than first or lastborns?
2006-11-24 14:57:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I teach and I can spot a middle child in a second. They are the ones who hang around my desk and beg for attention.
Yes, birth order does have an effect on a child.
If you wish to have three children all you need to do is make sure you do not overlook the middle child. If you are aware of the possibility then you can solve the problem before it starts.
2006-11-24 15:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is up to the parent if the middle child gets the short end of the stick. I am the middle of 3 kids. The first gets responsibility. The second gets treated moderately. The last gets spoiled. The best thing about being a middle child is it has helped me become a mediator. My brother and sister never got along, but I got along with both of them. This has helped me with dealing with people.
My advice is to have as many kids as you want and love them all Fairly.
2006-11-24 15:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by chad t777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases. The middle child, get the short end of the stick. But as long as you love them all the same. Don't treat one better than the other. Things should work out okay. But if you do love them all the same. You will get. A middle child that. Will end up hating you. Good Luck to you and your family.
2006-11-24 15:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetblue85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go the way you think is right. Don't worry about what other people say. Just relax and wonder how great it would be to have children. Middle children usually have emotional problems. I am a middle child and I do have emotional problems. That is why I go on this website. But i learn to deal with life.
2006-11-24 15:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by rockingirl52 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sort of a middle child so to speak. There are six of us so the attention is divided, as would be expected, but I always come off short. It's really just that there is nothing wrong with me that I am somewhat ignored. I get good grades, don't have any issues with respecting my parents rules and I don't really have much going on for me, unlike my other siblings. I guess I just don't need the attention as much as the rest of them, nor do I demand it. I can see how it can be easy to forget me because I don't really need or ask for much.
2006-11-24 15:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Bloody Wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I'm the oldest of seven, and i went through way more of that crap than any of my brothers or sisters.....I was also the most rebellious, and i had all kinds of problems when I was kid, then i grew up and now I'm awesome....so either way it all depends on the person and the parents and the environment in general, because anyone from anywhere and any situation can become any kind of person at any point in time, as the result of even just one little word or action. It's a combination of so many things.
2006-11-24 15:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the middle child DOES suck. I am always depressed and I NEVER get attention. I get BLAMEd for everything. Because I am the smartest and the most reposinisble I have to keep in check my older brother is acting "responisble" and I have to take care of my younger sister even though she is only 2 years younger then me. PLUS I get blamed even though it's not my fault. I am like Kerry from 8 Simple Rules. EXCATLY like her. same body,same hair and eyes. Hope this helps.
2006-11-24 15:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, they have the pressure of living up to the older child AND they have the pressure of setting an example for the younger child
just make sure that u treat your children the same, so no one feels left out
2006-11-24 15:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky#11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the middle child and I like "me" the best of the three of us! : )
I was also the only left hander, the only one with blue eyes, the only one that didn't do what daddy did (I went into science, my sisters into business). I was the only one that went abroad as a foreign exchange student and the only one that has my own business.
Have as many kids as you want. Love them as individuals. Recognize their strengths. Expect them to excel, but do not expect them to excel at what you hoped for!
You never know... fate may deal you twins when you least expect it, and you won't have control over your family size, anyway!
Good luck.
2006-11-24 15:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Tammie R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, honestly, think about it...the first one gets all kinds of lovin from you all your family and friends because he or she is the first one to do anything....the last one gets the same treatment cuz he or she is the baby. the middle one is stuck because big brother or sister is too old to want to play and little one is too young to want to play with. or the middle child just is always wishing, oh i wish i was big so i could do that...or i wish i was little so i could get away with that.
lot's of families have 3 kids...and i'm sure the middle one isn't always of the "marsha, marsha, marsha" mindframe....just teach the middle child that he or she has an equal part of your heart and bring them up loving her or his siblings.
2006-11-24 15:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋