My bf knows that i'm not ready for sex and he never pressures me to have it. however, he's really affectionate (which i'm fine with) and playful. he does a lot of things though (like running his hand up my leg) which i think is a signal he wasnts to go all the way. but my question isn't about him pressuring me or anything (cause i know what to do if he does), it's about his feelings. what does this to a guy's feelings when the girl he loves won't do it? does he feel rejected and frustrated?
btw, we've been going out 4 months and he had a long term girlfriend before me and he's not a virgin.
2006-11-24 14:50:13 · 24 answers · asked by extreme98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to anonymous...i'm just waiting until i'm ready. it could be with him, it could not.
2006-11-24 14:59:22 · update #1
i'm 19...going on 20 soon. he's 20.
2006-11-24 15:19:12 · update #2
He may feel rejected but if you have talked about how you feel them i'm sure he won't. Sometimes he may get frustrated with you...trust me I was in the same situation. And each time he gets upset just remember that he is in a different situation. Men tend to think of sex as a was of expressing their love. One thing I did was to find other ways to express my love for him. I wrote tons of love notes and made cookies with his name on them. This made my ex-boyfriend feel like I truly loved him. You just need to have good communication and I am sure he will not be upset in any way. Good luck and if you need any advice just send me an email
2006-11-24 14:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Blondie98_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares for you than he will wait and not pressure you. He might feel a little frustrated, but there is other ways to show affection besides sex. I dont think that he is feeling rejected, because he knows how you feel. Wait until you are ready. My sister lost her virginity early and she regreted it. I waited until I found someone I love and I dont regret it at all, we are still together, and we are going to be getting married. So good luck!
2006-11-24 22:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by Racheal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend are young, and he is not about love. He is about sex, and trust me on this, he will wait and be patient, but in the end if you give in to him, he will leave not long after. I learned this from personal experience, and it was a very bad experience. He will feel very frustrated at times. But, in the end, he will respect you more and have more feelings for you. Guys won't think too much about you if your easy because he didn't have to put his heart on the line. My soon to be husband and I have not yet had sex, and we are planning our wedding. He wants sex, come on he is a guy, but he knows how i feel and where I stand, so we don't even play too much because we both know it might start something that might affect our relationship.
2006-11-24 22:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by hot_confederate_babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months isn't that long of a time. Even though he is not a virgin, he must've known that pretty early on in your relationship. If he didn't respect that and your wishes, he wouldn't be with you. Congratulations on still having your virginity. That is a great thing. Most people just throw it away. Save it until you feel completely ready. And, if you're not ready, don't just do it to get it over with. Keep respecting yourself and your own feelings. If he respects you and loves you, then he will also respect your feelings about sex.
2006-11-24 22:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground. Believe it or not he probably respects you for purity. Sure guys want it and will jump through hoops to get it. But if he is the one for you he will wait until you are ready. He has no need to feel rejected because you are obviously affectionate. As for frustration, yes he probably has some, but a cold shower will fix that. Stay strong and good luck.
2006-11-24 22:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what kind of BF you have. Some may feel rejected, while others may feel angry. Others will stay calm and take the rejection like a man. The strange thing is, some of us guys won't even give much of a care. If he really loves you, he'll respect your decision to remain a virgin.
2006-11-24 22:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well can i ask are you gonna give it up to him eventually or are you one of those girls who wont and will wait for marriage.......let me know then i will answer you
ok thanks for the info.....now you should be thankful he's not pressuring you....this gives you more time to relax and feel at ease.....he probably is smart and knows if he pressures you then it will turn you off so he's playing it cool and being nice.....also he could really like you and he could be a nice guy and doesnt wanna pressure you......and that touching and third base stuff is probably right....he probably wants sex but right now hes just chilling and enjoying toucing you
now like what most ppl say is true if he really loves you then he will wait....but the reason why i asked for more detail was how long........if your gonna wait 2 years then he might think i could get laid with someone else faster so if its really long then beware of that.......if its from 2 months to maybe 8 months he should wait that long for you.....but if hes with you more than a year then i assure you any guy will get impatient.......also im wondering how old you are....since hes not a virgin im guessing you guys are around the 15 to 18 year age......so he will wait a year but not much longer...
but anyways to really answer your question lol........it really depends on the guy and time.....if you wait a really long time then i assure you he will feel rejected and frustrated.....because then he's gonna ask himself the questions like.....is it me.....why isnt she having sex with me.....it must be me and so on.....he will feel bad about himself and probably blame himself but i personally think that it will be a long time before he gets impatient and before he gets really frustrated.......im guessing this on the assumption because you told me that he had a long term relationship before so he should wait
also ask yourself the question after a while if you dont feel comfortable if its you or its because your not comfortable with him because you really dont wanna waste his time or your time because life is precious and everyone wants to get laid lol
wow 19.......i didnt know girls still held out that long lol.....so many sluts out there nowadays....thats good....im a virgin too at 18 and i think im gonna give up looking for a nice girl because theres so many sluts and i cant find good girls anymore.......its good for you so keep doing that
2006-11-24 22:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frustrated, yes. Rejected, maybe a little. It is normal for a guy to try to get sex from a girl. That's what we were born to do. If he honestly loves you, he will respect your wishes and stop before it goes all the way. You can be absolutely positive he will masturbate to relieve any built up emotional urges.
2006-11-24 22:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he has gone out with you for 4 months and not pressured you he is a good guy. also dont worry about it because he just wants to have sex. he isnt frustrated. just tell him you want to wait but it could happen someday and he will understand. i would take it as a compliment because that means he thinks you are beautiful.
2006-11-24 22:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah, first, guys get frustrated, but some get over it. if he feels rejected, hes addicted to sex, so dump him. second, even if you do get ready, the unwritten law of dating specifically states that all sex must be put on hold until you reach the 6 month mark, or until he gets you flowers. if you think you are ready, let him know, just IN GODS NAME AND FOR ME, USE A FRIGGIN CONDOM!
2006-11-24 22:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by acampion2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋