I have a doc that I work with that is a complete ***. I am sure he does not know that I don't care for him, I just try to keep my distance. We recently had a carry in for thanksgiving and he tried to dictate what I needed to bring in for it! As we were eating he openly refused to eat something stating" the person who made the food looked like their house was dirty , since he made this comment all the other co-workers laughed and proceeded to pass over this co-workers dish due to his comment. Last night I wiped the counter with chlorox wipes and he loudly but indirectly said something about me using *ucking wipes that everyone except idiots knows he hates. While he is a excellenct doc he is very cocky, and cliquish . I am sure his gayness has something to do with his bitchy behavior, and rude comments. One of my male co-workers said that there is no room for a black womans attitude and a gay man drama that attitudes clash and this is the reason we can't get along. What do you think?
2006-11-24 14:34:13 · 9 answers · asked by nene 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your doc sounds very arrogant. I hate people like that, and id probaby not work their much longer. The stupid spoiled little jerk needs a boot up his *** and a lesson learned. He really is so full of himself and thinks that he is so superirior to everyone else..that is the gist of it because hes insecure loser. He thinks now that hes a doctor and has some respect he can treat people like garbage because he was probaly ridiculed and bullied earlier in life and has to overcompensate for it. Hit him where it hurts....even though you may lose your job.
2006-11-25 14:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked with doctors for many years and there were all types of personalities. Some very nice to complete jerks. And being gay has nothing to do with it. Some doctors think they are superior to everyone else---even other doctors.
I think if you like your job otherwise, just keep your distance as much as possible. If he keeps on saying derogatory things about the other people, and you want to report him, start documenting everything that is said. And document who was witness to these things, too. Make sure you learn how to do this properly.
I think he sounds very unprofessional to talk the way he does. Unfortunately, excellent docs KNOW they are good, and some are terribly conceited and arrogant!
Hang in there! And if it gets to the point you can't stand it, you might want to start looking around for another job. But good jobs aren't that plentiful right now, so be sure that is really what you want to do. Good luck!
2006-11-25 06:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go to your HR manager and ask for advice on how to handle this. The comment he made about the person looking dirty could constitute harassment of that person, and someone needs to check his behavior, but this can't be addressed until someone brings it to the attention of the appropriate parties. If this is his practice, find another job, because you are in a no win situation. If you do talk to someone do NOT make mention of him possibly being gay. That could be taken as you being discriminatory instead of the other way around.
2006-11-24 22:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by searious 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man! I know how you feel...one word of advice? IGNORE if you possibly can.I understand you have to work together but get by on only the minimal. I bartend and work in my family's steak house..I have a woman that works there as a prep cook and while she is "nice" she tries to be too nice..any ailment that anyone has had or is going through, she makes it a point to say "oh, I had that but 10 times worse, and I still show up to work" I mean EVERYTHING...and its always, in her words "10 times worse" so far in the last 6 months, she has had, AND I QUOTE "ovarian cyst rupture, no bowel movement in 3 weeks, tourettes and her latest is a brain tumor...all 10 times worse than anyone she knows...the woman is 60 and lives with a 22 year old..only problem? she shows up for work and does her job..so we all just kind of snicker and nod...so like I said..minimal is good:D
2006-11-24 23:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by crimson_ghost03 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that your co-worker is correct. If the 'doc', wasnt there to show out, you wouldnt have to share the spotlight.
2006-11-24 23:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im stuck in the middle on this one. On one hand he could be a jerk, but honestly it sounds like you want attention and simply dislike him.
2006-11-25 00:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
phew thats why i hate working with gays....they are terrible pple him being white and gay thats it. but i think u shldnt keep quite. tell the HR,... n then dont let it go whenever he syas something be prepard to hit back with the equal level he said it.
2006-11-25 03:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell here good luck i hope things get better
2006-11-25 00:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahaha...with your big booty and his big ego-feminine one anyways you've hit the jackpot sista!!
2006-11-25 00:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋