2006-11-24 14:28:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask for rent and do not let her stay long. You need your privacy.
2006-11-24 14:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should and do NOT feel guilty about it. Do not ask for huge rent if she cant afford it, but even a small amount is important for you to ask for. By telling her that she is welcome to stay at your home but she must pay rent you are doing several things: 1) reminding her that it is your home 2) Letting her know that this is a temporary solution 3) making sure there is some discipline in her life and so that she avoids being accused of 'using' her friends and family. In the end it is a very sensible thing to do as long as you don't ask her to pay an unreasonable amount. Make sure your wife and you agree but, I sure hope you think about it.
2006-11-24 14:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by immune01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife should agree on a time limit of free rent. If her sister is getting back on her feet explain to her that she can stay rent free for a couple of months and after that set a date and amount to pay. If she is having a very hard time agree on a small amount (maybe $50 a month) and as her situation gets better the rent can increase on a monthly basis.
2006-11-24 15:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by ladyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if rent is the right word I would use, but depending on your money situation, the cost of food and other things will add up.
Either make it a short term stay, or ask her for some assistance and help out with some of the bills that increase due to her stay.
Like someone else stated, I would make it a short term stay, so that you have your privacy back.
Good Luck
2006-11-24 14:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by soulful thinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO!!! If she moves in expecting a free ride she'll never move out. If she there for a fresh start then she can start by paying you rent. As much as you think she can afford. You don't want to over charge her because then she'll say you charge her so much she can't afford to move out, if you don't charge her something she'll stay for the free ride.If your wife gets mad show her all the answers you got here. If nothing else ; charge her enough to save half of it so you can help her move .
2006-11-24 16:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , but i suggest being compassionate in what you will charge her. As an adult she has to be responsible , all responsible adults pay rent/mortage no where is free but the street or a shelter, and even sometimes they charge. A fresh start does not negate responsiblity. Now you may want to consider the first month she not pay rent to help her w/ her fresh start, etc. then the following month begin to charge rent ( a nominal amount).
2006-11-24 14:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by BEAUTIFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who asked her to move in, did your wife? If it were your wife or your idea then no do not ask for rent.
Being a adult she should offer you something. It sounds like it is just her right, not kids, b/f? Then you need to keep records on how much the electricity goes up, other utilities. When it gets to be to much, and/or she never offers, you may want to say something.
If she asked to move in with you, then yes tell her how much rent will be. If it is a rental make sure it is OK with your landlord!
2006-11-24 14:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't wrong to ask for rent....an extra person is going to add up to extra costs no doubt. Her sister needs a fresh start for a reason so don't make it too difficult or costly for her to make the changes she needs to in her life so this accomodation does remain temporary. With any luck at all she will offer to pay for her room and board and then you won't need to ask.
2006-11-24 14:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by timeless_echo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on her situation and yours. If she is starting over, maybe she could start off with helping with groceries, household chores,etc until she gets going. Then I would definitely think it's fine to ask her to pay something towards rent. Sit down and talk about it before she moves in and that way there will be no hard feelings or misunderstandings.
2006-11-25 00:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me on two occasions and neither time did I ask her to pay rent. You could, I suppose, but the idea is you are helping family out a jam. You are going to look a lot better, now and in years to come, if you don't ask for rent.
2006-11-24 14:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by slippped 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
most definitely. you can ask for help with the household, etc, but asking for rent will only harm your relationship with all of your wife's family, and create marital problems. ask her to help you cook dinner, as a fun event, or request that she run a random errand for you once in a while. however, before you let her move in, make it politely but extremely clear that she is expected to be decent to you, your wife, and the rest of your guests, and clean up after herself. that should make her stay, at the worst, pleasent and beareable, no matter how nagging, annoying, or messy she might be. enjoy!
2006-11-24 14:40:31 · answer #11 · answered by cc41girl88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋