If one parent is critical, pointing out every single flaw in life, and nothing is ever done right, fast enough, etc. does it stomp on a childs self esteem? Does it make them critical? Is it healthy? What do you do about a parent who is never satisfied… a faultfinder? What do we tell them? Any advice would help. thanks!
2006-11-24 14:23:47 · 6 answers · asked by Yvette B yvetteb 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I had a step mom that was very critical. It can definitely hurt a child's self esteem. Tell the fault finder to pick on someone their own age, and MAKE them back off of the kid. Inform them there are many medications that will help them with their issues. People like that don't need to be around children
2006-11-24 14:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really a shame that some parents are like this.
Yes, it does damage a child's self esteem. My parents were like this, and I always struggled with low self esteem. I have a hard time accepting myself, and I'm sure other children raised this way feel like that too. Some people react with more anger than I do, I suspect. I have to watch my mouth, I find, at home. I'm nice at work, and out in public, but can be a real b**** at home. That's how my mother was, so go figure. A lot of children copy what their parents do, or end up with the same emotional problems their parents have/had even if they try really hard to do better.
So, no it is not healthy! Who are the critical parents? Your parents or friends who have kids? Either way, the situation is a very difficult one to talk about. Tell the person who is so critical that they seem stressed and unhappy and you are wondering why. If they ask why you think so, you can point out about how much they complain and find fault, and you were wondering if you should be doing something better or different. Tell them you are trying to see things from their point of view and trying to understand how unhappy they are, but that the negativity is really bringing you (or their children) down and making you (or their children) unhappy. Just be careful how you say it!
Hope this helps! good luck!
2006-11-24 22:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh heck yes. I'm 46 years old and my mother is still critical and judgemental. It can scar a kid big time and self esteem can go into the toilet. Children will always make mistakes and it's important to teach them that mistakes are part of growing up. It is so important to provide an environment of acceptance in the one place a child feels safe. Their home. Overly critical parents will produce children that are afraid to make mistakes; that will become obsessive to a fault of their actions and second guess their own actions.
Yes....Yes, Yes. Being overly critical is bad.
2006-11-24 22:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by Allison S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i would imagine that a critical parent has a profound affect on the children in the home.
whatever you tell the person, tread lightly...find a way to not attack the person, make it about the well-being of the kids
good luck!
2006-11-24 22:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by nurse123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are called control freaks and my mom is like that and I try to not be as judgemental as she is, but it does shape who you become. It can make a child/adult feel bad about themselves and then they lash out at others.
2006-11-24 22:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-24 22:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by carolinefordssuperbragirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋