be honest
no i'm not racist, i'm just asking because i have a girlfriend of a different race.
2006-11-24 14:22:49 · 30 answers · asked by Xander R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If my 3 year old walked in with a girl from a diferrent race i'd be surprised, and impressed
2006-11-24 14:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mike Honcho 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much the same way as I would if they brought one of the same 'race'... but I'm probably unusual.
It really depends on your parents. Do your parents seem to want you to marry into a particular culture or economic class?
For me, I'm more interested in how the person presents themselves - are they intelligent and personable (shy is still personable). I'd give them a chance, certainly past a first meeting, to demonstrate that they'd be a good mate for my son or daughter.
But some parents aren't so tolerant. Only you know your parents and their potential prejudices... is you girlfriend of a particular culture or ethnic group that your parents dislike? This could be a problem. Are your parents 'racist' in some way (no offense intended)? Then this also could be a problem.
I know that I've been in a situation where I had to hide the specific ethnicity of an Asian girl from some friends because they didn't like that particular ethnicity (they were also Asian, I'm Irish).
I wish you luck - but whatever they say, if you both like one another, screw what you parents think.
Just my .01
-dh
2006-11-24 14:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my ADULT child ( and I have two of them) brought home a girlfriend of another race, I would treat her with respect and interest in her as a person, just as I would if she was of the same race as my son. My sons are adults, capable of making their own good or bad decisions. If I haven't taught them what to look for in a prospective mate by now, I've failed as a parent. They both know that it's the person's values, morals, and personality which count, not the colour of her skin.
If one of my teenage sons bring home a different race girlfriend, she'd get the exact same treatment from us, as long as she was under our roof. When she left, as parents we have the right to make sure our son has used good judgement and chosen his friends wisely. We wouldn't criticise her to him or make him feel defensive. We would ask him open-ended questions and make sure he feels comfortable bringing her home again as long as their relationship lasts. Our sons know our house rules and what is expected of them while they live at home.
Our belief is that our sons' girlfriends are their prospective wives, and possibly the future mothers of our grandchildren. Nothing is worth risking their friendship or making our sons choose between a girlfriend of whatever race and his parents.
2006-11-24 14:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have kids yet, but I would be okay with it. I'm 23 so my parents were brought up in racial households and I brought someone home of a different race and they were okay with it. As long as I was happy and he treated me good, that was all that mattered.
2006-11-24 14:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Honey7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're afraid that your parents might react negatively to your girlfriend's race. If you suspect that, ask yourself this question: "Am I bringing my girlfriend into a hostile environment? Will my parents take out their prejudices on her?" Perhaps you should tell your parents about her before they meet her so that you can gauge their reaction beforehand. And if your parents do react negatively, tell your girlfriend this and discuss solutions. If your parents do turn out to be racist, NEVER try to justify it to your girlfriend--you'll end up alienating and hurting her.
2006-11-24 14:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by college_monday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a racist either I am myself of a different race married to someone who is American BUT I would love to keep the family of just ONE color if possible, so if my child brought someone of a different color I would probably have a heart attack., I would not mind a different race of our same color but not a race of a different color. My opinion, my life, my choice. No offense to anyone!
2006-11-24 14:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lilly 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 31. My dad would have had a stroke if I had brought home a boyfriend of another race...friends were different, but not a boyfriend. My husband and I (if we ever let our children date:), will not have a problem with it.
good luck!
2006-11-24 14:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by nurse123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just act normally. If the person is nice and you love her, it should not matter at all.
If your parents tend to be a little prejudiced, you might have to warm them up a little bit before they meet her, but I am sure it will go fine- they are your parents, and as long as you are happy, they will be happy.
2006-11-25 03:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a different race wouldn't bother me. Now if my child brought home an a**h***. I'd have a problem with that.
2006-11-24 14:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did just that. I was not happy because I knew what problems they would have. As it turns out, I was right. They are now divorced. His ex and I have remained friends. She is a lovely person, but they couldn't overcome the problems of a mixed marriage.
2006-11-24 14:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋