Okay i know im not the prettiest girl but honestly i dont look that bad, im just not gorgous. My mom tells me im ugly that i dont fit in with other people, that i dont have friends that ther only beautfiul part on me is my armpitt cause i was saying that i dont have hair down there. like wdf did she ever care about how i feel? i mean im only not perfect because of her, she ***** made me i didnt choose how i looked you know. It really hurts how the person who is serpose to support me and understand me is the person that hurts me. I cant tell her when im not okay because she'll just say something shitty to me that will hurt. You know what i cant stand when people tell me im ugly or they say crap about it, i just burst into tears. I am crying right now. I cant take it, no one helps no one makes me feel beautful or loved, almost everyone i meet at school are fake and two faced. I really cant help it that im not perfect, im not normal like everyone else, i feel so different. i dont fit in.
2006-11-24 14:20:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry to hear that u feel that way. You're rite your mom isn't right saying that to you, I have no idea why she would. I don't know what to say to help you..but everything happens for a reason and one day you'll be better than everyone, because that's how it seems to go - the ones who don't fit in when they're young end up to be very succesful or even the prettiest one in adulthood. Sometimes being a teen can be difficult, just enjoy what you enjoy doing and don't care what people think of you and good things will happen to you, I know it. :)
2006-11-24 14:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to have a good self esteem when the very person who brought u into the world criticizes everything about u. But don't let it make you think poorly of yourself. Everyone has beauty and I'm sure u do 2, you are putting too much into what your mother is saying about u.
It sounds like ur mother has her own problems, she probably had a bad childhood and she is jealous because she sees you with a clean slate to do it over again, and she probably doesn't think ur ugly, she just sees the things she doesn't like about herself in her daughter. These mother and daughter things are very complicated. Just promise yourself when you have a child you won't do these things to your child because you know how bad they make u feel. Maybe it would help if you start a journal and write the positives about yourself each day, things you accomplished, people you talked to, ways you were strong.
Iwish you the best in becoming the person you would like to be.'Don't give up.
2006-11-24 14:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Reading this made me cry. I was treated worse than that by my mom's ex-husband and she just stood there and let him say what he wanted to me and my sister, but it was generally me. I'm not trying to make my situation a bigger problem that your, I just want to let you know that there are others out there who have gone or are going through the same thing you are. I truly believe because of him that I am ugly and that no one will want me. My relationship with my boyfriend suffers everyday because of it. I have had to rebuild my self-esteem and anytime someone isn't nice, I'm shattered. He was only verbally and emotionally abusive to me, but physically abusive along with the other two towards my mother.
I found something that I was really good at and loved, music, and everytime I felt bad, like I didn't belong, wasn't loved, or whatever it was, I practiced and listened to music. I sang and let myself be lost in the music. I was first chair in my high school all four years in band and made all-county, all-district, and all-state band first chair. I used whatever he threw at me and made it into something positive or used it as fuel to prove him wrong about me.
That is my advice to you. Find something that you love to do and put your emotions into it whenever you are feeling down and hurt; even when you aren't feeling that way. Do your best at whatever life throws your way and show your mom that she didn't get you down. It is quite therapeutic and can relieve stress. If you can get away from that situation through Child Protective Services or the Department of Social Services and you are willing to leave, then that might be best.
Let me say that you are truly beautiful and perfect just the way you are. Being different isn't a bad thing, it's what makes each of us special in our own way. I wish you the best of luck in your situation and everything will turn out for the best.
2006-11-24 16:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by bndgrl09 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I think that one thing people fail to pay much attention to are kids with imagination. Its not rewarded, you can't test for it, you can't prove it, but you can tell when someones smart with or without the grades. Most of the time teachers don't like this cause grades and standard tests make them look good. That and children with big imaginations tend to ask a lot of questions. The whole thing is maddening. The good thing is that those kids usually invent something,write a book etc and keep the world full of new ideas. Their the idea guys. Kinda important.
2016-05-22 23:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is verbally abusing you. I am so sorry to hear that this is happening. Please talk to a school counselor or call the police or Child Protective Services and get the authorities involved with your family. You don't deserve that. It sounds like both you and your mom need help.
You are a child of God, and He loves you. You are valuable. I think your question is very articulate and you're obviously an intelligent person. If you aren't getting a lot of support at home you can find other role models to help you. For example, you can perhaps find teachers at school or leaders of youth groups who can help you and set a good example.
2006-11-24 14:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You must realize that your mother is a freak. She has a problem and you must not let her get to you. She sounds like a mental case. She is the true definition of ugly.
Let me tell you about men. Real men fall in love with inner beauty. It is true. A woman can have one only one good feature and he will zoom in on it and think about only that. Whether it be your eyes, smile, chin, ***, breast or whatever. My husband has a son that is very good looking and the girls always pay attention to him. When he was young my husband told him to remember that even the most unattractive girl was better looking than he was. Girls, women are all beautiful. If they are not rotten on the inside.
2006-11-24 14:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your pain, your mom is wrong. Please don't cry, you do fit in, you are beautiful (God doesn't make anything ugly). People, even parents can be so hurtful and cruel sometimes, please don't give into her rantings and don't start believing what she says in anger.
You are special, you are deserving of all the wonderful gifts in this world, no one is perfect - except God.
Find a trusted friend or relative and try to talk to them, as you age, if you don't buy into all that your mother is spouting off, you will find someone special, and beautiful to you - and she was wrong - you are worth everything!
~ God Bless ~
2006-11-24 14:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by soulful thinker 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well 1st of all I am sure you are very pretty,please don't let your Mom break down your spirit,be yourself !! Try readed some self help books to boost your cofidence and tell your Mother how she makes you feel,don't keep that in stand up for your self.Maybe that will help and maybe not but it feels good to get it out in the open.you are only as Beautiful as you think you are!! Look from the inside then from the outside.
2006-11-24 14:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Dew 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, it's your mother who has a problem!!! That's obvious. I'm a mom myself and for her to tell you that is absolutely WRONG! she seems to be very angry and probably jealous of you....not sure why, but dig a little deeper and you'll probably figure it out. Try not to let her get to you~she's the one who's screwed up, not you! Good luck.
2006-11-24 19:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by ANITA g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, thats really bad
she should support you and make you feel good about yourself, who you are , how you look, etc.
If I had kids I would build them up instead of making them feel bad.
Maybe she just feels bad about herself and is taking it out on you. Maybe her mom did that so she can't help it.
Anyway, stay away from her when she does that. I'm sure you are a smart and beautiful girl. Don't listen to her.
2006-11-24 14:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋