Im 16 and my boyfriend is 17. he says he's in love and i believe i am too, but i have my worries. He claims he will marry me, no matter what. There is no other girl out there for him. I want to believe him but the possibilities are highly unlikly right? i dont want to be buillding too much on what he said. What should i do, and how can i find out if he's telling the truth? i really want us to work out.......
2006-11-24 13:58:21 · 20 answers · asked by Nestle Quik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think some people just know. they meet when they are young and know they will marry by the time they are five or something. they are jsut sole mates. if your questioning it makes me wonder if thats your case?? are you two headed in the same direction for your lives have you talked about that? Where do you see yourself in ten year, twenty years. etc
2006-11-24 14:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you said the possibilities are highly unlikely, then you said you really want you both to work out, I guess you yourself arent even sure enough of your own relationship there.
Love is blind. You cant know whether he's telling the truth or not. Things change from time to time. What I suggest is you just go out with him for the moment and forget about the marriage thingy first.
When the time come, you will know that he is talking the truth or just talking bs. And no, 17 and 16 isnt too young to be in love, but its just all about the mind, if you two really love each other, I really believe that you two can make it through together ^^. Good luck my friend~!
2006-11-24 22:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by kachengz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are way too young. You need to finish school, get some sort of job training, have a full time job, some life experience with other people, etc. If you bypass any of these experiences, eventually one or both of you will want to later on when you are too tied down. It took me forever to finish college because I got married at 18. Don't do that to yourselves. You can always get married and have kids, but you can't always get back the youth that will help you get through college.
2006-11-24 22:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 and I'm in love with a girl whose 16. I'd say don't rush things too fast. If you love him and he really loves you, so much the better but try to live your lives out normal and have fun now. Dont' have a fuss about marriage till later when it really becomes important (or actually capable of happening)
2006-11-24 22:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Sensible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then work it out. Nobody can teach you how to love. Only experience can tell you if what you're feeling right now is indeed love.
BTW, some people think that love is about making sacrifices. I think that would lead to something tragic. Love is something that makes you grow as a person. So if in your relationship you feel that you are dying, maybe you should think about moving on. Giving love to someone shouldn't feel like its an obligation, it is something that gives you joy to give. So its important that you are always honest to yourself in knwoing the difference between love and something else.
2006-11-24 22:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by ragdefender 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is quite sincere about what he is saying right at this time, but that doesn't mean things won't change down the road. Take it slowly! I strongly advise against marrying or agreeing to marry when you have not yet been out on your own and learned more about life. Trust me. Been there, done that.
2006-11-24 22:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by secondwish02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be what you want to hear, but please take things slowly. There is nothing quite as sweet as young love, and I don't doubt that you two DO love eachother... But as you grow, you will change, and most likely change at different times, speeds, and in different ways. We got married at 19 and 20, and now we fight all the time. We were so madly in love, and agreed on everything... Now we barely know eachother... Focus on you first. Decide what you want in life and go for it... Live your dreams. If he fits in them and can live his dream too... then Go for it... But make sure you ar happy with yourself or you'll never be happy with anyone/ :)
2006-11-24 22:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should know if you love him or not. Has he done anything to make you believe that he don't love you? It can work if you both are truthful with yourselves, but I won't say it will be easy. I have seen it happen and they are still in love and married after 30 years.
2006-11-24 22:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by JJ J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too young to be in love. Could it work? Possibly. Never know unless you stop second-guessing and doubting. Something's holding you back. Figure out what that is, deal with it, and get on with it. Maybe you have abandonment fears? Maybe you're not as ready as he is? It sounds like he is sincere, but it's you that isn't .
2006-11-24 22:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 he changes what he wants about every few months. so the chances of it working was on Dr.Phil and it was like 20%
People over 21 had less than 50% chance of it working.
Last year more babies were born to single mothers than ever before in human history. Do you have a job? can you support yourself and a baby and pay for a sitter while you work?
2006-11-24 22:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋