sometimes i feel that i might be in love with someone and at the same time i feel that i love or admire someone else and this makes me feel guilty and and moreover sometimes i ight feel that i love someone and the next day i dont feel it.what is wrong with me?or the real love is the one between married couple only?i like to beleive that.
2006-11-24 13:30:26 · 12 answers · asked by mony 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You fail to treat love like it really is. Love is an emotion, no more, no less. You do no have to feel guilty because it is just a feeling, it does not require a rational reason to exist, or in your case, exist in multiplicity or not at all.
You can stop feeling it, it can come out of nowhere, it can be intense, it can barely flicker. It can be there one day, gone the next.
People treat love as if it is this never ending intravenous liquid that flows through us forever, when it hardly ever affects us at all.
It's coming and going is fleeting, but it's manipulation of our perceptions and beliefs is what lasts. If you remove love from it's socially constructed pedestal you learn to discriminate between actual love and what you falsely believe is love. Love what you love, not what you think you love.
Also, you're kidding yourself if you think real love is only between married couples. 50%+ divorce rate. That certainly doesn't mean the other half are looking at each other puppy eyed.
2006-11-24 13:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by ModerndayMadman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's Just that what u love can come from 2 people in different ways.
What I'm saying is that one can make u laugh and u love that, an the other can make u happy.
U alway seem to fall in love with the person can make u feel like somebody, but than u meet this person that make u feel like a queen. I going through that now all I can do is pray and take my time to weight every thing the worst thing could happen for the both of us if we pick the wrong one.
2006-11-24 13:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by msgris2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness what a emotional roller coaster your are on! Yes you can have love for more than one person. It sounds like you may need some grounding. Sometimes leading with your heart can lead to much confusion. Try to figure out what attracts you to each of these people. Sometimes the idea of someone or something can be mistaken for love.
Sometimes the grass isn't greener on the other side...it's just a different shade of green.
Hang in there and don't feel rushed to choose.
2006-11-24 13:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not a limited commodity. There is enough love to go around.
There are many kinds of love, and there are chemicals in the body that can cause us to feel a drug like high and we call that feeling "being in love." There is nothing wrong with loving more than one person.
I have seen married couples that didn't act like they love each other and unmarried couples that did. I don't believe that love is only for married couples.
Are you perhaps asking strictly about romantic love with sex involved? You get to decide what is right or wrong for you. If you believe in serial monagamous relationships, then that is right for you. You get to determine what kind of love, with whom (with their consent) and how you love.
You also have the right to change your mind at any time! Be honest with yourself and others and enjoy this wonderful life.
2006-11-24 13:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm "humbled" by the many awesome answers you've received. I was sitting here absolutely FREEZING & wouldn't get up to close the window, so busy giving thumbs up! I got the impression from your question that you're very young. All I intended to say was that there are MANY kinds of love, & they can be co-exisitent, also that you needn't feel "guilty." Do give the answers a good think; they are incredibly thoughtful, & wise. &--there is nothing WRONG with you!
2006-11-24 14:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that real love is between two people and is felt mutually, now that dosnt mean that you couldnt be falling in love with two people at once!!! So yes i think you can love twice just try and pick the one you seem to think you can really make the best out of. Hope everything works out for you!
2006-11-24 13:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by asubound07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that some people really can love more than one person. Those people probably should not get married. If we are only allowed one love, how do you explain people who lose a spouse and eventually find love again?
2006-11-24 13:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you dont have to feel gulty ask one out and if hes bad than ask the other one out but try not to cheat or you will fell worse and when you get a boy than dont right about someone else or he will call you a sllut.
sara good luck
2006-11-24 13:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a good question! when you are going out with someone, you say oh I love you! but think about it, when break up, are you SOOO sad and is he the only person you think about? When you LOVE someone you want to be with them forever!
if you really love someone, you would know!
but i have people i know going out with people and they say i love them, and thats like the 8th person they said that too. Then they don't really love them! so when you are going out with a person, truly think if you love them or not!
2006-11-24 13:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by dont know how 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you....you're just young. Take your time, don't rush it. You will know when it's "real" love, but sometimes many who are young mistake it as "puppy" love.
Wish you luck and happiness in your future years.
2006-11-24 13:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by J T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋