2006-11-24 13:27:20 · 8 answers · asked by betty m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
he should take her to family court. He'll have to pay child support (if paternity tests prove the children are his) but the court will establish visitation and custody
2006-11-24 13:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know enough about this situation to give you a good answer.
These things are usually complicated. Why is she not letting him see the kids. Is he not paying child support? was he abusive to her or the kids at some point? is your son irresponsible in some way, does he do drugs? Moms don't usually decide to cut the other parent out unless they have a reason.
If your son has done nothing wrong, and has tried to reason with her; then it's time to bring in the lawyers
2006-11-24 13:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry...you won't like this, but you need to do 3 things. 1) You need to support him with love and listening. 2) You need to have him speak to a lawyer and 3) You neen to sit back and butt out.
If he's big enough to be a father, then he's big enough to do what he has to do to see his children, provided she doesn't have a valid reason not to allow it. I hate to say this, but there are 2 sides to every story and I can guarantee you don't know the whole story. So all you can do is be a great mom and love him...help him financially if he needs it to get a lawyer and then let them resolve it.
You're a great mom, but you cannot fix this. Obviously, if there are three children with the same woman, he's seen them at least twice.
2006-11-24 14:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Allison S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First findout what kind of relationship she had with her dad. If it was good then she must see how important it is for children to have a dad.
If the relationship was bad, then tell her she must know what it means to live without and if she really wants that for the children. He should also make her see that she has the right to time on her own, and he wants to help her, because if she is fullfilled then the children will also be. If he wants a good relationship with the mother of his children then he should try calling up her motherly instincts, over and over again.
He should bring gifts for the kids and something for her, he should offer to do the shopping for her. And he should go on like that even if she shouts at him, he should always say, your the mother of my children that makes you very very special to me and I want you to be happy.
She will have to one day go soft. I would go soft.
Good luck
2006-11-24 23:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a lawyer that specializes in Family Law. He can take her to court and have visitations ordered. If he is supposed to be paying child support, then I would make sure that it is up to date. I commend him for wanting to see his children!!
2006-11-24 13:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family court! Quick! A father has a right to see his kids no matter what! Meanwhile, tell him to log each attempt that he makes to see them, or call them. She is the one who will end up getting the short end of the stick!
2006-11-24 13:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by DREAMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should get a lawyer and have visitation papers drawn up.
2006-11-24 13:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE HER TO COURT
2006-11-24 18:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋