my boyfriend wants to have a baby but i am not ready yet what should i do?

Question

He's 17 and Im only 16 and He is already thinking about having a kid wid me when we haven't even been going out for that long... Im scared and afraid how will i raise a child when I so caught up with other things to do..... pls help

Answer 1

dont do it..use contraception

dont bring baby into this world if its not welcome and ur both far far too young for all that


wait a while, enjoy eacvh other and ur company, go and date

for a 17 yr old guy i sorry to say he wants to get in ur pants,,,if he impregnated you hed be off...could he support you both with alimony? dont think so,,,be careful and keep yourself safe from pregnancy until your ready

much love and success

Answer 2

Don't even think about it. And you might want to consider running and screaming from your boyfriend.
Children born to teens are generally born in poverty and life isn't all that good.
If you want to have a child, you should be ready to provide a good life for the child. Besides money, that child needs parents that are happy and fulfilled so they can offer a happy, nurturing environment.
But, I feel strongly that we are overpopulated already. Everywhere you look there are signs of people, roads, buildings, parking lots everywhere. That's just the beginning, we're polluting too much and running through resources like there's no tomorrow.
One person could try to trash the planet and it wouldn't make a difference, but 6 billion people can make a mess of it. Just wait until the population centers of Asia are affluent enough to drive cars and live in a disposable economy.
It's scary. It's irresponsible.

Answer 3

From an optimistic point of view, he may be trying to prove that he's committed to you. That you are the one he wants to be with, and have a family with. Just tell him that you are flattered, but that neither of you are prepared to raise a child, and that you want to provide better opportunities to your child. Explain that more doors will be open when you both have higher educations, a home, and financial stability. Ensure that you want a future with him to, but that there is no need to rush the details. Babysit someone elses child together in case he's just having a touch of baby fever. Have him change a few diapers. lol *Best Wishes* And don't give in. You have too much going for you!

Answer 4

You are young raising a child is a big responsibility. Its your body and no one can make you have a baby if you arent ready. Finish school get a job and be able to pay for your way of living a baby isnt cheap and you need to know how to take care of a child their differnt than baby dolls kids are real they need to be loved and well taken care of. You need to tell your boyfriend that you are not ready to have a child that you have goals and want to accomplish them before bringing a child into your lives. I hope I helped.

Answer 5

listen to your heart....you're still very young (and I don't mean that to sound like everyone older is so much wiser, I just mean that there's lots of time before you should even have to consider having a baby) Sounds like you're a smart, strong, independent girl who needs a push in the right direction....please don't do anything you're not ready for. Kids shouldn't be raising kids. I mean it's not harmful to talk about a future together, and the possiblity of someday having kids and being together forever....but there's no need to rush it. Tell him how you feel about it....and it sounds like a cliche, but if he really loves you he'll understand and respect you for it. You already know what to do deep down....trust your instincts.

Answer 6

purely because of the fact U think of U are waiting 4 a toddler via no ability makes him waiting! And if he tells U that he would not prefer a million..then this is that! And to boot..he cheated on U and now U have the prefer to make a existence-long dedication to him like having a toddler?? Are U extreme? U could desire to wanna step back and fully re-think of this element! Sounds to me like U are purely asking 4 somewhat extra drama in ur existence! Or do U think of that he will without delay love U much extra then the different woman cuz U have a newborn at the same time? U could desire to work out how he's w/his different toddler mamas and then U would recognize ways he will b w/u! reason, opportunities are high, U get prego now, U are gonna b no longer something extra then toddler Mama #3!

Answer 7

invite him over sometime when ur babysitting or take him to a parenting class or something. if he doesnt change his mind after that then tell him all about child support. if he still wants a baby tell him u wanna get married first. if he still wants one then tell him ur gonna be ready to get married in like 10 years. a 16yearold girl shouldnt have a baby, you have your whole life to have a baby and raise a family.

Answer 8

Don't have a baby...You are special..I think you should just enjoy life with your friends. You are very young and have plenty of time to get serious in the future. Take your time to know someone. No sex is the only good choice.

Answer 9

Man, if you're not ready, don't even take a chance.

Having a kid at a young age is the biggest problem you'll ever experience in your life.

Answer 10

jesus, it's going to be coming out of YOUR body, and YOU'RE going to be ultimately raising the kid. they apparently cost $474 a month. DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT. you have to tell him you're not ready, and if he pressures you for it then 1. he's insane, 2. he doesn't respect you and 3. you need to leave his ***.

wait until you're at LEAST 20 and one of you has a good, steady job.