I do not express any type of emotion when people die, I do not cry or anything. When someone that is close to me dies, I feel the same and I kind of shrug it off. But my uncle was murdered in late August-early September, and I started acting really weird and angry. And I possibly lost a friendship because I was treating them unfairly ( I was pretty rude to them). I regret what I did, but I no longer feel angry anymore. Is it possible that I took out all of my anger on him?
2006-11-24 13:22:14 · 13 answers · asked by Ohay 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes it is very possible that you took your anger out on your friends. Our emotions plays with us sometimes but your friends should have understood what you were going though and remained close but at a distance until you were ready. That is what a good true honest friend would do. Instead they left you alone hurting with no one to help you deal with your anger. I have friends that were not themselves because of a change in their life and the same with me and were are still friends. We didn't have to apologize to each other because one of us knew that the other was not him or her self.
2006-11-24 13:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Staci R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you "feel the same" and shrug off deaths of people close to you, it is very likely that you are afraid to express what you really feel or have been somehow taught that it's not ok to show your emotions and so are keeping your feelings so far inside you don't even recognize them. The thing is they will come out somewhere, whether you make yourself sick, act out-like with your friend, or turn to addictive behavior. It's always a good idea to tell the truth about your feelings and I bet your friend might understand if you explain you were just acting out over the death of your uncle. good luck.
2006-11-24 13:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by OK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible that you took your anger out on your friends. Losing a loved one is difficult to deal with even if the cause of death is natural. To lose someone through a tragedy makes griefing harder in my belief. Your uncle's death is a shock, especially because someone took his life.
Please go to your friends if possible and try to talk with them. Apologize for the way you acted. They may need some time to heal from your anger, but at least give it a try.
I'm sorry for what happened to your uncle.
2006-11-24 13:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would say you know what happened you just want confirmation. But here is something for you. Try to salvage that friendship. If they were a true friend then they will understand. Make your apologies and explain what you were going through. Also, try to learn from this situation. "Not reacting" is reacting! I am sure if you let out a big cry and let yourself feel it, it may hurt at first but it will be easier on you and your family and friends. Your heart will mend faster. But I am sure that if you try and maybe give your old friend a try all is not lost.
2006-11-24 13:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by ohio to newyork 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you took out your anger on them! But, you're feeling pain and hurt and they are the only people you want to take it out on! You may not even realize your doing it. You should try apologizing to your friends and have a talk with them about it!
I bet they will totally feel for you!
2006-11-24 13:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by dont know how 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but it wasn't fair to the friend. You may want to sit down and write the friend a letter explaining what happened. They deserve that much of an explanation.
Sorry to hear about your uncle. My ex-boyfriend was murdered shortly after I was married. It was really hard for me to express myself because I didn't want my husband to think I still loved the guy.
2006-11-24 13:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is probably possible because you were probably feeling anger deep inside of you that needed to be released and you took it upon your friend, and now you probably regret it. Try talking with somone about how you feel and see if you can get back together with the friend you lost. I hope this helps:)
2006-11-24 13:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by mycatjello@yahoo.ca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that. but it seems to me that there has been so many deaths going around you that your uncle recently,particulary was either closer to you than the others, or that since there were so many people who died,when your uncle's took place, it blew you off. thats probably why ur mind get emmotional and u take it out on ur frends and theres no one else to take it out on. my aunt died, i shrugged it off too cos she lives in new jersey and the last time i saw her was about 3 years before her death. i guess i dont really feel for her becos i never at all was really close to her. if thats ur case, just know that ur uncle is in heaven looking down at u, smiling.
2006-11-24 13:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by 恒健 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would say that it is very possible. But if you did and you realize that you did and you're sorry, try and talk to your friend. If they're a really good friend they'll understand given what you must have been going through. Tell them you're sorry and that you didn't mean to.
2006-11-24 13:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by ffantasy1984 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-25 01:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋